I stood up for my boundaries and my self respect, and my boss feels that all i did was make a situation worse. I work at a pub as a cellar man doing tasks like line cleaning and counting in the delivery. On Halloween the pub ran a fancy dress karaoke night that I took part in. Had a great time. End of the night i go to say goodnight to the landlady and her fella, and they are being yelled at by a drunk regular. I have been asked by them to not get involved so I stand a little to the side and wait for an opportunity to say goodbye. I seem to have been too close however the drunk then rounded on me. As I was told bot to provoke anything I stood still and let the fool vent his speen, when he ran out of steam said goodnight and made to leave. The bar manager then said to me that I should have backed down and the landlady concurred. Many if my personal confidence issue stem from school bulling and have promised myself to not allow that situation happen again. I feel that backing away would just encouraged the drunk to continue abusing me and the landlady etc. am I wrong in this? This is a new attitude for me and I want to be confident I didn’t overstep. I would appreciate your feedback.

I’ve pretty much had the same hobby for 25 years. But given a big tangled mess of issues (the same ones that bring me to Brojo) it’s become more stressful and depressing than entertaining. So I’m on the hunt for alternatives. For reference, I’ve been dancing one or more of salsa/bachata/kizomba/zouk since 1999. It’s pretty challenging finding something that fills the gaps in fitness, social intros, nights at the bar, IRL tinder, and regular travel destinations for big events. Plus of course finding something I find interesting. So, let’s have a discussion about what you guys get yourselves up to. PS, I’ve done a few PT boxing sessions at the gym, which has got me to look at the nearby boxing gyms and Krav Maga options. I plan to check out a few trial classes.

Daily Dose of Integrity A client of mine is eager to move to a different city to shake things up and enhance his quality life. However, he felt disappointed and upset when he shared his ideas with his parents, who were discouraging rather than supportive. This type of response is common when you're trying to develop yourself. You'll often tell people about your ideas and, while you’ll be all excited, they will respond in a surprisingly negative way. When I first thought of starting my business, I was shocked that nearly all of my friends were discouraging. I kept being taken back, until I realized something: Every time someone tried to discouraged my new plan of action, 99 times out of 100, they never tried doing it themselves. They were not coming from a place of experience, they were not discouraging me from a place of knowledge or wisdom. It's more like I've triggered some fear in them, as if I'm pressuring them to do it. You've got to stop listening to people who don't have experience and just trust yourself.

New full length video out today! This is an excerpt from my course: Building Rapport In this video, we explore the importance of authenticity in the workplace, and I'll be sharing insights from my experience at the Department of Corrections. Being genuine, rather than adopting a rigid professional persona, is key to career success, despite what most people believe. Saying "no" more often to align with career goals, treating everyone equally regardless of status, and being prepared to confront issues, are some of the honesty principles we'll look at. I'll also explore the claim that prioritizing honesty over job security is what's best for your career, and advocate for a mindset that values integrity. Watch the full video here: https://theinspirationallifestyle.com/how-to-be-honest-at-work-without-losing-your-job/

I realized that I'm a people pleaser quite late. In my early fifties. Does it really matter to work on it now? I kept putting off working at it. And realized that life feels bad despite having got successes on the outside. So, I re-read No more Mr.Nice Guy and went through few Dan's courses on Udemy. Looking forward to getting over this syndrome and getting more satisfaction and fulfillment from life. While helping others to do the same. Cheers!