I have used negative self talk for decades before I found the Manosphere and more directly Ryan. It sneaks back in every now and then but now being aware of it I hit it with a thought or out loud by saying “STOP” I use all of my passwords as positive messages. As an example I was in a pretty shitful marriage and I used “Freedom542023” the numbers being my age and the year I wanted freedom by. I typed this out at least 20 times a day for at least a year. I beat the dead line too. FTB I also apply positive messages to automatic activities such as showering. When shampooing Id say “I wash away all (Fear,worry doubt anger ) what ever message you want to use Every time I took a piss Id say I remove (what ever) or X is leaving me. ( and award my self 10 points for not missing) In the car Id say Im Driving myself to get/achieve X The potential for adding positive messages to activities is huge. I dont recall the book I got this from, but if I do ill add it here. I also apply gameification to activities too. I started giving my young kids points for doing stuff too which was interesting to see their responses. I have found these to be helpful but clearing the underlying issues is where the power really lies