"I Feel Tense and Don’t Enjoy Sex…" 😬

Hey sexy people! 🍉

I keep answering #popularquestions# from my clients and also ones you selected here

Let’s talk about something that a lot of folks experience but don’t always discuss—feeling tense and not enjoying sex. This tension often comes from psychological blocks, which are like invisible barriers in your mind that keep you from fully enjoying intimacy.

These blocks usually stem from negative beliefs about sex and sexuality. Maybe you’ve grown up thinking that masturbation is shameful, that sex is something dirty, or that men only want sex from women. These kinds of thoughts can make it hard to relax and take the initiative in bed, leading to a passive or disengaged experience.

Women often struggle with this more than men, sometimes just going through the motions without truly enjoying themselves. And let’s be real—sex without relaxation and proper arousal isn’t just unsatisfying; it can be physically uncomfortable, too. When tension takes over, it’s no surprise that orgasm becomes almost impossible to reach.

But here’s the good news: Recognizing these blocks is the first step to overcoming them. With time, communication, and maybe even some professional help, you can start to break down these barriers and rediscover the joy of sex. 💖

Have you had any negative beliefs around sex? Let's destroy them in the comments.

Cheers,

Irina 🥂

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