👸🏻 BE THE STANDARD -ELIMINATING DISTRACTIONS AND SETTING BOUNDARIES USING HUMAN DESING

We are constantly told as women that we need boundaries and to raise our standards (and agree tbh) but we are rarely ever taught exactly why and what that means.

Without that information we go into perfectionism and overthinking, which overwhelms us, we spin out and end up doing things that distract us from our standard and what we want.

Even if we do see a woman setting boundaries in her business and relationships, we adopt those same boundaries and they don’t fit with us, it doesn’t end up serving our bottom line or getting us any closer to OUR unique desires.

There are SO many specific and contextual reasons why we don’t have them in place, that it would be impossible to get into them all in one video or thread without having 1:1 conversations.

But I think I have found an efficient way to help you individually in a general way ;)

Our values and desires are unique to us, this is what makes up our standards.

Our distractions take focus away from our values and desires, lowering the charge (frequency) and decreasing the magnetism of them.

In that area, we become impotent.

(could this be why we attract the same type of mennnnn, idk maybe.)

Boundaries where we are the most vulnerable to distractions will therefore increase our magnetism and potency.

And as a byproduct we will live inside of a 3D reality that meets our higher standards because it has no other option, that is law.

Everything in our life will be made up of the same frequency and as we interact with it, it upholds are energetic standard (wherever that is for you.)

I would say that discovering where you are vulnerable to the most distraction and then creating boundaries there would automatically increase our UNIQUE standards and the quality of clients, partners, friends and experiences we have.

➡️ 1) Look at your Open (white) Centers here (scroll over with your mouse on desktop): https://paid2exist.online/p2e-chart

➡️ 2) Check your biggest distractions and boundaries to prevent it below

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⚔️ DISTRACTIONS + BOUNDARIES ⚔️

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🌱 ROOT Center (Impulse, quick hits of dopamine, adrenaline seeking) 🌱

Constantly seeking new experiences, often jumping from one activity (or person) to another impulsively.

⚔️ Boundaries

✔️ Set specific goals and prioritize tasks to avoid getting caught up in spur-of-the-moment distractions.

✔️ Practice mindfulness techniques to ground yourself and become more aware of impulsive urges before acting on them.

✔️ Lower Cortisol activities and environments.

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🎢 EMOTIONAL Center (Emotional rollercoasters, seeking emotional experiences, quick hits of dopamine, coping mechanisms like food or alcohol) 🎢

Finding oneself easily influenced by emotional highs and lows, seeking temporary relief through indulgence or escapism.

🛠️ Boundaries ⚔️

✔️ Actively CHOOSE your emotional experiences before you enter rooms or situations— choose neutral if you’re not sure what you desire.

✔️ Establish healthy coping mechanisms such as journaling, meditation, creativity or exercise to manage emotional fluctuations.

✔️ Set limits on indulgent behaviors like excessive eating or drinking, all or nothing doesn’t work for you. Create chaos containers ;)

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🥂 SACRAL Center (Seeking pleasure, over-giving, overdoing/compensating) 🥂

Constantly seeking pleasurable experiences as opposed to what is best for YOU. You often overcommit or overcompensate in seeking pleasure/life-force energy.

⚔️ Boundaries ⚔️

✔️ Practice saying "no" when feeling overwhelmed or overextended.

✔️ Ask “who can support me with this?” before you take action.

✔️ Set realistic boundaries around work hours and personal time to prevent burnout.

✔️ Create time for self-pleasure and things that light you up, make that your priority every day.

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👷🏻‍♀️ SPLENIC Center (Codependency, seeking safety/comfort) 👷🏻‍♀️

Seeking security and comfort in relationships or external factors, sometimes at the expense of personal growth. If you find you cannot be alone or without some sort of relationship for long periods of time, even if it’s unhealthy for you, it’s time for boundaries.

⚔️ Boundaries ⚔️

✔️ Develop self-reliance and cultivate hobbies or interests that provide comfort and fulfillment independently.

✔️ Take dedicated space between relationships until you can be alone for long periods of time and feel safe.

✔️ Practice detachment.

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🫶🏻 G-CENTER (Seeking love, relationships, looking for identity outside of you) 🫶🏻

Placing too much emphasis on external validation or relationships to define one's identity. Seeking relationships with multiple people or back to back to back. Trying to figure out what you can look like or where you can go or what you can do to make people love/like you.

⚔️Boundaries ⚔️

✔️ Invest time in self-discovery and personal development to build a strong sense of self-worth and identity. You can choose a new one every day of your life, what matters is that it’s a conscious choice rooted in self-love and validation.

✔️ Set boundaries in relationships to ensure they are mutually beneficial and not based solely on validation or dependence.

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💪🏻 HEART Center (Forcing things, controlling and proving yourself) 💪🏻

Feeling the need to constantly prove oneself or exert control in situations because you’re afraid you're unworthy to inherently receive it, as if no one will give it to you.

⚔️Boundaries⚔️

Center yourself, put your desires first.

Communicate desires and requirements often, without attachment.

Limit time with people who take before they give.

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📣 THROAT Center (Over-explaining, attention seeking)📣

Feeling the need to constantly express yourself or seek validation through attention, so really any attention seeking behavior will be a distraction.

⚔️ Boundaries ⚔️

✔️ Practice active listening and allow others to speak without interrupting or dominating the conversation.

✔️ Set boundaries around social media usage and limit seeking validation through likes or comments.

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👀AJNA Center (Trying to understand why someone did something, wanting to be right, overthinking, self-judgment and doubt) 👀

Overanalyzing situations or seeking certainty in uncertain circumstances.

⚔️ Boundaries ⚔️

✔️ Practice acceptance and let go of the need to constantly analyze or understand every detail. Say "It is what it is."

✔️ Engage in mindfulness practices to reduce overthinking and cultivate self-compassion.

Flip all thoughts so they favor you!

✔️ Limit or eliminate time with people who are "confused" about what they want and who they are.

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💡 HEAD Center (Scrolling social media, always looking for inspiration):

Constantly seeking external stimulation or information, often leading to distraction or overwhelm.

⚔️ Boundaries ⚔️

✔️ Set specific times for social media usage and limit exposure to content that triggers comparison or anxiety.

✔️Practice mindfulness and focus on being present in the moment rather than constantly seeking external inspiration.

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Boundaries are not about other people, they are what we do and what we allow, we don’t put the onus on other people we know that we are in command of ourselves. If we aren’t upholding our own boundaries we can’t possibly expect others to!

When we do this the most magical thing happens, people can FEEL our energetic boundaries and our high standards, those that resonate and honor it will stay and those who don’t will leave, creating space for those that do! It will not feel upsetting or sad when they leave, it will feel natural and full of possibility.

This applies to your audience, customers, romantic partners, children and friends baby, ANYONE you are relating with 💋https://paid2exist.online/p2e-chart

Xx,

Paige

PS. Let me know in the comments where you get to firm up those boundaries the most….

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