After listening to this video, I realized that I get it.
I'm working on not judging others first, because even the Bible says, 'how come you see the speck in your brother's eye, but you're missing the log in yours" or something like that. And not judging what's going on second, because things just are, they just are.
A person just is and a situation is just a situation, you are the one who puts a label on it.
For example, my dryer broke, it's not heating. The old me would have been so upset, crying, cursing, getting whinny, blah blah blah... because she'd see it as such a big mess.
This new me, the Open-hearted me, the to open-minded me, just sees that is a situation. The dryer is not working, it either needs to be fixed or replaced. That's it.
I decided to give it a shot at fixing it first and we're waiting for the part, but before I'd have been also upset because I have to spend money. That obsessive lack mentality the world seems to grab onto.
I'm so different now, we even took advantage of the nice weather and dried the clothes outside.
So, when you stop judging, you just observe. That phrase "it is what it is", it really is a powerful one. I've been there, I've been using the phrase for a while, knowing it's true, and it really helps 馃憤