To become multi-orgasmic, you must learn (or possibly relearn) the ability to separate the different sensations of arousal and to revel in orgasm without cresting over into
ejaculation.
Understanding how orgasm and ejaculation are different will help you distinguish the two in your own body.
In the West, William Reich, in his controversial book The Function of Orgasm, was the first to argue that orgasm involved the whole body and not just the genitals.
In the East, the Taoists have long known that orgasm could be a whole-body experience and developed techniques for expanding
orgasmic pleasure.
Many sex researchers are now arguing that orgasm really has more to do with our brain than our brawn.
Brain-wave research is beginning to reveal that orgasm may occur primarily in the brain. That you can have an orgasm in your sleep
– without any bodily touch – seems to confirm this theory.
With practice, you can learn to experience the peak feeling of orgasm without triggering the reflex of ejaculation.
In the next two chapters we will explain, step-by-step, exactly how to separate orgasm from ejaculation and how to expand
your orgasms throughout your body.
As doctors, the Taoist masters were interested in sexuality as part of a larger concern for the health of the entire body.
They practiced Sexual Kung Fu because they discovered that ejaculation drains a man’s energy. You have probably also noticed this loss of energy and general feeling of fatigue after ejaculating.
Even though you would like to be attentive to
your partner’s sexual and emotional needs, all your body wants to do is sleep. As one multi-orgasmic man put it, "Once I ejaculate, the pillow looks better than my girlfriend does."
The image of the unsatisfied woman whose lover ejaculates, grunts, and collapses on top of her is so common that it has become a cultural joke, but the exhaustion that men feel after ejaculating is as old as the first coital groan.
Peng-Tze, a sex adviser to the famed Yellow Emperor, reported almost five thousand years ago: "After ejaculating, a man is tired, his
ears buzz, his eyes are heavy, and he longs for sleep.
He is thirsty and his limbs feel weak and stiff. In ejaculating he enjoys a brief moment of sensation but then suffers long hours of exhaustion."
Athletes have long known the weakness and lethargy that follow ejaculation, abstaining from sex the night before the "big game." Artists
have also felt the lingering effects on their work. Jazz musician Miles Davis explained in a Playboy magazine interview:
Davis: You can't come, then fight or play. You can’t do it. When I get ready to come, I come. But I do not come and
play.
Playboy: Explain that in layman's terms.
Davis: Ask Muhammad Ali. If he comes, he can’t fight two minutes. Shit, he couldn’t even whip me.
Playboy: Would you fight Muhammad Ali under those conditions, to prove your point.
Davis: You’re goddamn right I’d fight him. But he’s got to promise to fuck first. If he ain’t going to fuck, I ain’t going to fight. You give up all your energy when you come. I mean, you give up all of it! So, if you’re going to fuck before
a gig, how are you going to give something when it’s time to hit?
In the West, we assume that ejaculation is an inevitable culmination of male arousal and the end of lovemaking.
In China, however, doctors long ago saw what the French call le pe it mort – "the little death" of ejaculation – as an avoidable betrayal of male pleasure and a dangerous depletion of male vitality.
The Times concluded: "The new work suggests that ceaseless sperm production takes its toll on a male, perhaps requiring the use of complex enzymes or biochemical processes that have harmful metabolic byproducts."
Over two thousand years ago – long before experiments on nematodes – the Taoists described the importance of not
ejaculating in the Discourse on the Highest Tao Under Heaven:
"If a man has intercourse without spilling his seed, his vital essence is strengthened. If he does this twice, his hearing and vision are made clear. If three times, all his physical illness will disappear.
The fourth time he will begin to feel inner peace.
The fifth time his blood will circulate powerfully.
The sixth time his genitals will gain new prowess.
By the seventh his thighs and buttocks will become firm.
The eighth time his body will radiate good health. The ninth time his life span will be increased."
Ancient texts exaggerate to make their point, and it is unlikely that the above benefits occur in this exact order or at the exact specified time. However, it is clear that Taoists have long known the importance of conserving semen.
If your body does not need to replenish this sperm, according to the Tao, it is able to
use this energy to strengthen your body and your mind. In the Taoist practice, this energy is used to improve your health, creativity, and spiritual growth.
Pulling the testicles down away from the body, which we describe below, is one age-old technique for postponing ejaculation.
You can help keep your prostate healthy and
possibly reduce your risk of prostate cancer by doing the pelvic Sexual Kung Fu exercises suggested here and by massaging your prostate regularly.
If you have prostate trouble or want to avoid having prostate trouble in the future,
see the section called "My What? Preventing and Helping Prostate Problems".
This spot was originally called the Million-Gold-Piece Point (they didn’t have dollars back in ancient China), because that is supposedly what it cost you to have a Taoist master
teach you its exact location. (The ancient Taoist masters were holy men, but they also had to make a living.)
The idea of chi is not unique to China. Dr. John Mann and Larry Short, authors of The Body of Light count forty-nine cultures around the world that have a word for chi; the words vary from prana in Sanskrit to neyayoneyah in Lakota Sioux
to num, which means "boiling point," in the language of the kalahari !Kung.
The West is perhaps unique in its lack of an
equivalent term. In the West, we speak about feeling energized or having low energy, but with a few notable exceptions, we tend to ignore this important part of our physical body.
One multi-orgasmic man explained his understanding of the Microcosmic Orbit: "I think of the Microcosmic Orbit as a channel or meridian or route that has been discovered and tested over thousands of years to transform the raw biological energy used to create children into a lighter and more refined energy that can be used to improve one's health and one’s
lovemaking."
Sexual Kung Fu practices are based on cultivating this sexual energy and using it to increase your overall energy and health.
You must learn to draw your sexual energy out of your genitals and to circulate it through the rest of
your body to truly master the Taoist techniques for experiencing multiple and whole-body orgasms and for improving
your health.
Since we are conceived through orgasm and orgasmic energy permeates
every cell of our body, to stay healthy and active we need to feel this rejuvenating, orgasmic energy regularly – ideally, every day.
Once you develop the ability to circulate sexual energy through amour body, you will be able to feel this sensation
throughout your body anywhere and at any time.
When you practice self-cultivation, this feeling of arousal will result not in uncontrollable sexual urges but in an energetic, calm sense of well-being. One multi-orgasmic man explains the difference:
"Before I started practicing Sexual Kung Fu, if I had not ejaculated in a while, my sexual urge would get stronger and stronger. I would look at pornography, look for one-night stands, or go to prostitutes.
After ejaculating, this urge would disappear almost instantly and I couldn’t understand why I had spent so much time and money trying to satisfy it. I would tell myself that I wouldn’t do it next time, but I knew that after a while the sexual urge would return and I would do it all over again.
When I finally started practicing Sexual Kung Fu, my sexual energy was still strong, but balanced. It was the first time in my life I was happy to
be a man sexually, because I finally had control over my sexual energy."
You can also take up Tai-chi or chi-kung (pronounced CHEE-GUNG) or other practices to
help you ground and channel this additional energy. Exercise in general will help you to manage this additional energy.
QI Gong
Physical Exercise regimen
Breathwork
"After I have a ‘squirt’ orgasm," as one multi-orgasmic man described ejaculation, "I feel like I’ve been on a six-second rollercoaster – after standing in line for two hours!"
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