Just a reminder for everyone since we tend to care about what other people think. No one is really thinking about you. People are so consumed with themselves that they don't have time to think about you. So start caring less about what others think about you.

Today I was feeling like crap because I keep getting mad at myself for being too scared to talk to the seniors in my class and I always feel left out because the kids at my table talk a lot and I don’t(at least in that class). So after school and I was in a crappy mood and I didn’t feel like going to workout. However, I used my discipline to go to the weight room and I pumped out a workout. And I felt amazing. This taught me that happiness can be hacked by doing the activities that make you happy. Weightlifting and exercise for me has always been a remedy and I think it’s important for people to find the things that make them happy. For a lot of young men, it’s likely weight lifting or some kind of exercise/sport. But who knows maybe drawing makes you happy. You need these activities that can easily flip your mood instead of being all sulky and starting to question the meaning of life. You just need to get out of your head.

This is the most important part of stoicism. So much of our attention is focused on things that are outside of our control. What people think of us, the weather, our genetics, and responsibilities that were placed on us like school. Obviously it's not always our fault that certain things happen because we don't choose to go to school, but we are still responsible for how we deal with it. We don't choose our genetics, but we are still responsible for taking care of ourselves. I had a huge confidence boost when I stopped caring so much about others' opinions of me and I paid attention to what i could control and what actions I could take that would help me reach my goals. Something that Alex Hormozi always talks about is "Who are you giving your power to?" He talks about how you should take ownership for your behavior and avoid putting labels on it. For example, people will say that they suck at getting close to girls because they had trouble getting close to their mother. The person is giving power to their mom over a behavior that they have today. What they need to do is just throw out all of the labels and just address the problem. They need to stop labeling why they have certain problems because there can be so many reasons. Just focus on the behavior and fix the behavior. Focus on the actions.