Growing up, I was always the tough one, the thick skin girl.
The girl that wanted to do be the best, and do everything right, I was a βjockβ and a perfectionist.
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For some reason, this alpha female, powerhouse energy and hard core attitude- I didn't have a ton of girlfriends and wasn't always included in the typical "girlie girl clicks".
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Now, growing up as an adult heart β€οΈcore businesswoman, a lot has changed. I work with about 70% women. Although, I still relate to and work with men much easier than with women in business.
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I think it's because I do my best to get over things really fast, don't hold grudges or have an ego for being right.
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Learning to detach emotion, energy and limiting beliefs from decisions I make in business has served me well over time.
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You see, when you add personal emotions into an argument or business negotiation you lose perspective, and people lose respect.
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As women, we often make superficial judgments of other women too quickly and then actively pursue this judgment in the way we treat them or acknowledge them.
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This is NOT real feminism.
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But, there is one thing that I have learned...
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No matter what... when ego-free, powerful women come together they create magic and change the world.
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When they hold onto stories, limiting beliefs and blame they create a mass distraction and in the end poor results
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So, while I believe itβs important to voice our opinions and continue to have the platforms that enable us to do so, we need to find a better way than the constant bickering we have now.
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A womanβs natural gifts of nurturing, sensitivity, compassion, and empathy are our strengths and bring elements to the table than embrace the uniqueness that makes us who we are, just as it does for men.
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We can provide opinions without being rude, we can stand up for ourselves without shouting over everyone else, and we can guide and empower other women without dominating or criticizing them.
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So, my intention and IMPACT for everyone to take away from this post isβ¦.
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Think about that women- or whoever you are struggling to reconcile your opinions with, and make an effort with her.
Love her and acknowledge her. β€οΈ
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Take the time to get to know her more than her first impression allowed- and check why you may be triggered.
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You never know what someone maybe going through-their behavior could be completely unrelated to who they really are.
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They may say silly things out of nervousness or social anxiety, but unless you take the time to give them time, you will never know.
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And the only way you will find what it is - is through holding space, and EMPOWERING her to be heard, to have a voice and to feel she is able to express herself without judgment or vindication.
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Maybe this empowerment will be the key she needs to be able to open her mind to the world.
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Ladies, we were designed to lead, letβs do it with grace.
These are just a few lessons I teach my daughter through my experiences and wisdom over the last 50 years and my motivation for launching my latest book woth 25 women.
Iβm stil an alpha female - however navigating with love, flowing like water and working on myself daily by balancing my feminine/masculine energy to connect and live a more sound life with women by my side.
Today more than ever we need connection and women deserve to love each other and be loved β€οΈ and our daughters deserve to witness it.
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