Toxic people are only toxic to you if you choose to be around them....
what are your thoughts on how to create boundaries and let go of those who intentionally hurt you, even when they say they joke. Walking away is the easiest path. It is not failure. Just a recognition that you do not want to expend any more energy. Of course if you really love them then you can explain graciously why you are walking away, though you don't need to. If you do this anticipate the reply and protect yourself from a possible barrage of unpleasantness. If you cannot protect yourself then walk away quietly and quickly. Have you done this with family, friends, jobs?