Apparently, growth doesn’t happen by accident – it’s something we create, day by day, through the questions we ask ourselves. The funny thing is, we often spend more time reflecting on others than we do on our own thoughts, actions, and goals. But true growth? It starts when we turn our focus to ourselves. If we’re not checking in with ourselves, we’re moving through life on autopilot, just reacting instead of creating (or taking action). Taking even a few minutes to pause and ask the right questions can get us out of that negative flow. It can help us re-align, refocus, and ultimately make choices that are right – not just for today but for who we’re becoming. Here are three powerful questions that I learned are useful (according to successful people), to ask oneself regularly: - “What am I proud of right now?” Acknowledging our wins, no matter how small, builds confidence and momentum. It reminds us that growth isn’t only in the big leaps – it’s also in the small steps forward we take each day. Also, I write the every day (not just work) tasks I do on a list on Notion. Even the very small ones. Writing a task and checking of really feels great and builds confidence. Yes, even the tiny ones. - “What have I learned from my recent challenges?” When we face setbacks, it’s easy to feel discouraged. But every challenge is a lesson waiting to be uncovered. Taking time to reflect on these lessons helps turn tough moments into valuable insights. This is now slowing down; it is a way to slingshot our progress. - “What can I let go of that’s no longer serving me?” This could be a habit, a mindset, or even a goal that no longer aligns with where we’re headed. Growth often means shedding old skin to make space for something better. Self-reflection isn’t just a tool; it’s a habit. The more we do it, the more clarity and purpose we bring into our lives. And remember, it’s not about finding perfect answers – it’s about exploring ourselves and staying connected to our journey.

Focus on the word. How does it sound? Even the word itself has "perfect" in it. How bad can it be? And who doesn't want things done right? As it turns out, pretty bad. As much as the tonality feels great, and we may want to have it as a badge of honor. Only the ones who struggled with its cold grip can really understand its real effects. Let's let go of fancy words and speak about real stuff. The pursuit of perfection can be the biggest roadblock standing in our way, and it often drains us more than we realize. You try to make everything perfect or in your own words; right, you often forget that you are not just wasting time of the thing you are doing, you are wasting your life. Deep down, you believe that being a perfectionist means that you are perfect. But no. You are not perfect and never will be. Make your peace with that. No human ever is going to be perfect and mistake-free. We are made of mistakes. Letting go of this illogical belief, will unlock you the ability to live your life. Don't you want that? Or do you want to obsessively focus on every little detail? Let me guess: You don't even want to do your job or clean your room because it takes a lot of time and effort, right? Wonder what is the reason. 👀 If your perfectionism becomes something so deep, you'll start to procrastinate everything you do. And one day, you'll realize that your procrastination has become chronic too. Don't do this to yourself. Let's say it again: Letting go of perfection isn’t about lowering standards. It’s about shifting our focus from obsessing over the tiniest details to embracing the bigger picture. It’s realizing that sometimes, taking action and moving forward is more valuable than getting everything exactly right. Remember, "Perfectionism is the enemy of progress." Give yourself permission to release the weight of perfectionism Ömer. Not only will you find more freedom, but you’ll also uncover a more authentic, creative, and resilient version of yourself. P.S. Yes, this is a letter to my younger self. I know that I am not the only one who has suffered from this.

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