3 Months of Freedom · Sexual Freedom Mastermind

3 Months of Freedom

Hey guys!

I just wanted to share something that I have been working towards for the last 10 years...

3 MONTHS PORN FREE! (well, 85 days but we'll hit it soon)

The achievement still feels surreal to me. In my 10 years of watching porn, I have never even come close to this - and I'm never, ever going back.

I wanted to share this win with you all so that you know it is possible. Just 3 months ago I was stuck in the endless cycle of watching porn and wondering when something would change. What I didn't realise was that in order to change, I first needed to understand that change is not something that I want to do, but something I NEED to do. I now strongly believe that until a man understands that quitting porn is not optional, but a requirement for having an amazing future - they will never change.

I finally understood that I needed to quit when my girlfriend was on the brink of breaking up with me. One night, when she could contain her pain no longer, she spoke to me seriously about my issue and for the first time, I saw how much I was hurting her. I saw how selfish I was being, and that while I thought that I was trying to stop watching porn, I was actually making excuses to keep it in my life. It finally occurred to me that unless I changed, I would lose the beautiful woman that I one day hope to marry.

That very night, through tears and prayer, I made the decision that I would never watch porn again - and since that night, I have not.

The next day, by God's divine providence, Simon happened to be hosting a sexual freedom retreat - something I had signed up to prior. Attending this retreat strengthened my resolve in my decision to never watch porn again, and allowed me to sign up for his coaching program. I knew that I needed a strong mentor to keep me accountable and on the right path.

Here are a few more things that were vital to my success, that I'm sure can be of use to everyone:

Understanding that in order to break free from porn we must CHANGE our identity and no longer identify as porn users. Identify yourself as someone who does not watch porn. At first I felt uneasy about this - I felt that I was lying to myself - but I kept stacking wins every day, and soon enough I had 3 months of freedom to prove that I do not watch porn.
I needed to do the interior work and reflection to find out why I was going to porn in the first place. I needed to discover what needs I have, and what needs porn was meeting for me. Ultimately I had to realise that God can fulfill all my needs - and I can now happily say that not long ago, for the first time in my life, I managed some negative emotions not with porn, but with God in deep prayer. It was an amazing experience, and I realised that for almost half of my life I had been emotionally regulating with porn, and not with God as I should've been. Trust me, the difference cannot be put into words. An exceptional book I must recommend to everyone for working through this is "Forged" by Jason Evert & Matt Fradd. I was scared of the idea of interior reflection & searching, as it is not something I am used to doing. This book makes it easy with the questions and instructions it gives.
Spend time with our Lord in adoration. There is no better place to work through the above points, than directly in front of our Lord. He will be there, working through everything with you.
Recognising we are beloved sons & daughters of God, no matter how unworthy we think we are.

I hope this helps someone! Please know I'm praying for everyone here and I know that everyone reading this will find the freedom they are looking for, if you haven't already. Just being in this community is a testament to your dedication to doing what we MUST do and becoming the men we are called to be.

God bless!

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