(Note this is the community you will want to join to be a part of this challenge: https://www.skool.com/mentalloadbasics/about) 1. @Katie Muller 2. @Braelyn Vandop 3. Ben Blayney (our Sept Winner) at 29pts 4. @Rye Druzchetta Some changes coming in November -Multi place winners, there will be a 1st 2nd and 3rd place -no more gendered challenges, instead opportunity to acknowledge partners -referrals will have a slightly lower value, or daily submissions will be more points, I know it can take some courage to talk with your community about these things, so i think those are valuable convos you'll be having and are worth their points. What challenge should we do in November?

I wanted to provide an update on the challenge I announced at the end of August where men could earn a $200 date night by identifying the mental load of their partners. October we are going to reverse it. Both Men and women can participate. Same prize but identifying the mental load that the men are contributing to the family. One thing that has been interesting is how many submissions I’ve had to correct, the difference between domestic labor and cognitive labor. 1. @Ben Blayney (52 pts) 2. @David Perlow (49 pts) 3. @Joshua Nelson (44 pts) 4. T - @Bryan Schollenberger (34 pts) @Eduardo Martínez (34 pts) 5. Ryan Muscott (29 pts) All together there have been 451 points scored, meaning yall have identified that many instances of mental load for your partners, you are the men that understand mental load that my 900k+ women audience (90% of 1.1M) have been looking for!

This is a game changer for us. I didn't expect it to be this effective but it managed twice now to really de-escalate us from very bad fights. Thank you for introducing this tool

For the men: GO to the new free community Mental Load Basics: https://www.skool.com/mentalloadbasics/about Participate to win a free $200 Date night to the location of your choosing:) Rules in the other skool community

Hi everyone! Just sharing in case it is helpful that we decided to have two Boring Meetings a week - one on Monday and one on Friday. We discuss logistics and tough topics, and I think we need a meeting at the beginning of the school/work week and one going into the weekend to cover logistics. Right now we use our shared family Google calendar as the framework for logistical discussions but none of the invisible labor is in the Google calendar (although I did recently add Google appointments on each Sunday for (1) Pay nanny (which takes about 30 mins each week given that her hours vary and we reimburse her for miles and things like ice cream, (2) make calendar for week (which takes about an hour to do each week) and (3) work on insurance reimbursements (which takes about an hour each week) - UGH). I put these in the calendar to bring visibility to these invisible tasks that I do AND to remind myself to do them because I am drowning. I would like to try the app that Zach uses. I'm sharing this as a "win/breakthrough" because John used our meeting Friday to discuss a tough topic that was on his mind. I was unprepared for it because it is not typical for John to bring up tough topics, and I was defensive which I regret. It's a huge win that he brought a weighty topic to the table. I have work to do on hearing him. Thanks for reading. Have a great weekend.