Time for balance w/o people pleasing

Hello - how has your week been?

We entered Libra season last week (which brings with it an energy shift and shines the Sun's light on a different area of your life (for me it's moved from my body and identity to my resources and money, woo hoo!)), Mercury moved into Libra on Tuesday, and both are approaching the South Node (hello eclipse!) - so, typically this energy might feel more soothing, easeful, and harmonious, but, that's not how the lessons are working this month.

One thing I'm pondering right now is the (sometimes) circular reference that is harmony. Looking back at my relationships (work, intimate, friendships, family, all of them), I can see where I was trying to keep the peace/create harmony through people pleasing (but, really, who am I to think I know what will make someone else happy?).

When I think of the most intense of those situations, I can see how my actions to keep the peace with others (or to do what (I thought) others wanted, or to try to accomplish other people's goals on their behalf) led to great disharmony and pain in my life (and in my body).

Luckily now, through a better understanding of how I'm built astrologically/energetically/archetypally (yep, made that one up) and through the use of some awesome (and easy) mind-body tools, I can catch myself before I people please, get grounded, and make a decision that addresses my needs and wants.

It's not easy - just last week I had multiple opportunities with the same person to do what was right for me. I slowed down, got sort of clear on what was going on in my system, communicated clearly (even when it was an ambiguous answer), and let the chips fall where they may knowing I was solidly in my lane. It was freeing, and, of course, a little spinny, it's new for me.

It also meant that I needed a day or two to really stop the pushing and let my system recalibrate. So, here I am after some external and internal reharmonizing and it feels so much better than the quagmire that was people pleasing for false harmony.

Because I've got some strong Gemini energy, I'm curious....What do you feel like you're balancing this month? Independence in relationship? Harmony without people pleasing? Meeting your goals through collaboration and partnership? Something else? Please share here if it suits you.

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