Don't expect superpowers, or else you'll relapse out of disappointment

Don't expect superpowers, or else you'll relapse out of disappointment

Reaching that magical 90-day streak goal will not grant you the ability to fly. I'm saying this after 540+ days of being porn free, for example.

I spent years consuming content trying to figure out how to quit my bad habits, and I'll be sharing the most important thing I learnt.

The mindset that helped me quit was:

"I do not do ___ since all areas of my life are better without it."

It wasn't:

"I am trying to quit ___ since it will directly fix all of my problems in life"

After helping a couple of people out in trying to quit and listening to their stories, I now understand that the main reason people end up falling back into the endless cycle of relapse after relapse is because their mindset is holding them back.

They think as if they are addicted (which makes sense, since they are) but if you truly want to break free for good, you have to think as if you've already succeeded.

Don't say "I'm trying to quit", instead say "I simply do not do that stuff". And WHY do you simply not do that stuff? That's for you to figure out. But I can tell you for sure that you get to quit once and for all as soon as you've realized a greater purpose for your life, rather than trying to reach a certain streak number.

Understand WHY you're addicted. Is it because you lack purpose in life? Are you stressed? Whatever the case is, make it your mission to solve the root issue, and you'll automatically increase your streak (at which point it's basically irrelevant since there are other things to focus on, as in my experience)

For example, the main reason I chose to quit bad habits was to become a better entrepreneur/content creator, and I can't reach my lifelong goal with addictions on the side. And of course, there are other things I wish to improve- family, physical health, etc.

And understand that every relapse is just a stepping stone towards a better life, so long as you're improving gradually. Don't look at relapses as reasons to hate your life, please.

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