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Fill The Void, then quit your addictions
After seeing countless people struggle with their bad habits including myself in the past, I realized that in my opinion, THE MOST IMPORTANT thing to do is to identify WHY your addiction exists, and then solve the root issue. I made a video on my YouTube channel that explains exactly how you can do this for yourself:
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New comment Oct 3
Fill The Void, then quit your addictions
1 like • Oct 3
After looking at this video from earlier in the day and then letting it settle in my mind. Life itself is about mind over matter. I know that the only thing I'm filling the void right now is doing my school work but that's not enough. I'm still getting my finances in order and might start next year going to a gym to lose some weight or go to my college's gym and do it there.
Today I noticed that I made major progress
With today being the start of a new month, I know that last month I had some ups and downs but I think what I did today helped me out a lot. I put my head to my college homework and try to get ahead of the game on it. I asked my mom for help into how I'm supposed to breakdown my homework for college and go from there. I also watched some TV during my down time than tugging on my package for unhappy fun.
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Don't expect superpowers, or else you'll relapse out of disappointment
Reaching that magical 90-day streak goal will not grant you the ability to fly. I'm saying this after 540+ days of being porn free, for example. I spent years consuming content trying to figure out how to quit my bad habits, and I'll be sharing the most important thing I learnt. The mindset that helped me quit was: "I do not do ___ since all areas of my life are better without it." It wasn't: "I am trying to quit ___ since it will directly fix all of my problems in life" After helping a couple of people out in trying to quit and listening to their stories, I now understand that the main reason people end up falling back into the endless cycle of relapse after relapse is because their mindset is holding them back. They think as if they are addicted (which makes sense, since they are) but if you truly want to break free for good, you have to think as if you've already succeeded. Don't say "I'm trying to quit", instead say "I simply do not do that stuff". And WHY do you simply not do that stuff? That's for you to figure out. But I can tell you for sure that you get to quit once and for all as soon as you've realized a greater purpose for your life, rather than trying to reach a certain streak number. Understand WHY you're addicted. Is it because you lack purpose in life? Are you stressed? Whatever the case is, make it your mission to solve the root issue, and you'll automatically increase your streak (at which point it's basically irrelevant since there are other things to focus on, as in my experience) For example, the main reason I chose to quit bad habits was to become a better entrepreneur/content creator, and I can't reach my lifelong goal with addictions on the side. And of course, there are other things I wish to improve- family, physical health, etc. And understand that every relapse is just a stepping stone towards a better life, so long as you're improving gradually. Don't look at relapses as reasons to hate your life, please.
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New comment Oct 2
1 like • Oct 2
I was never into that whole superpowers bs that r/NoFap preaches. I just take one day at a time and just live my life that way. What you have lined out makes more sense than what others try to put out there.
Cold Turkey vs Gradual Decrease
We all hate our addictions (for obvious reasons) which is why we prefer trying to quit all at once, AKA go cold turkey. But, after learning the path to breaking bad habits and making errors myself over the past 2 years, I might have to say that cold turkey isn't the way to go. I've tried both methods: Quitting all at once, and decreasing over a period of time. From experience, a gradual decrease seems more reasonable. Scientifically speaking, a gradual decrease also seems more reasonable. I tried going cold turkey on p*rn but faced relapse after relapse, however I kept increasing the number of days in a row I would abstain for. eg:- indulging thrice a week, then once a week, then once a month (over the course of a year) So basically, I was gradually decreasing, even though I was unaware of it. After analyzing all of my other habit-quitting journeys, I see that this pattern was always present. And, 450+ days later of being clean, I think this was a massive factor for my success. Yes, it took me a year to quit p*rn, but you could definitely speed it up if you stick to a written plan. I know, it might sound weird 'scheduling' your next indulging session, but instead think of it as setting small goals. Achieving these goals will push you and motivate you far better than a streak, that you expect to last for 10,000 days while you're at day 1, ever will. I've actually created a video where I discuss this more in depth (Check it out in the Classroom tab). Hope this helps, take action :) Have you ever tried a gradual decrease? If so, how was your experience?
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New comment Sep 24
1 like • Sep 24
I've gone cold turkey once before but it was from me over fapping once. Gave myself cuts on my dick when it happened. Went to NoFap to let myself heal. Then I turned my back on NoFap. I've even tried going back to them multiple times to go cold turkey but nothing worked.
What’s the biggest challenge you face in quitting your bad habits?
Let's identify our biggest weak point so that we can tackle it for good.
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New comment Sep 26
1 like • Sep 24
The discipline is the hardest compared to motivation in my personal opinion.
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JohnThomas Jones
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Just a person looking to kick a bad habit and to get his life back on track.

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