How to Make People Follow Your Lead(Establishing Authority) (Full Guide)

Areeb H

14d ago in 👏🏼 Life Setup & Framing

I’ve Tried,Researched and experimented these things several times so I know this works

Also posted this in Hamza’s community and it got pinned so All the Outliers here might also get help from this guide

there are 7 steps to Establishing authority

Finding your Authority style
Focus outwardly
Cultivate the third Eye
Lead from the front
Stir conflicting emotions
Always Give,Never Take
Rejuvenate your Authority

You won’t understand it just from the titles So keep reading each step is important

Step 1 :- Finding your Authority style: Authenticity

The authority you must establish must come naturally from your character, From the Particular Strengths you possess

There are several types of authority ,Don’t overcomplicate it

the Deliverer, such as Moses or Martin Luther King Jr., an individual determined to deliver people from evil.

Another archetype would be the Founder. These are the ones who establish a new order in politics or business. They generally have a keen sense of trends and a great aversion to the status quo.

Related to this archetype would be the Visionary Artist, such as Pablo Picasso or the film director David Lynch. These artists learn the conventions in their field and then turn them upside down.

Other archetypes could include the Truth Seeker (people who have no tolerance for lies)

the Quiet Pragmatist (they want nothing more than to fix things that are broken, and have infinite patience),

the Healer (they have a knack for finding what will fulfill and unify people

The Teacher( they have a way of getting people to initiate action and learn from their mistakes)

Step 2 Focus outwardly : The Attitude

We humans are self-absorbed by nature and spend most of our time focusing inwardly on our emotions, on our wounds, on our fantasies.

You want to develop the habit of reversing this as much as possible.

You do this in three ways.

1st you hone your listening skills, absorbing yourself in the words and nonverbal cues of others. You do not take people's smiles and approving looks for reality but rather sense the underlying tension

2nd you dedicate yourself to earning people's respect. You earn their respect by respecting their individual needs and by proving that you are working for the greater good.

3rd you consider being a leader a tremendous responsibility, the welfare of the group hanging on your every decision. You feel a deep and visceral Connection to the group, seeing your fate and theirs as

deeply intertwined.

If you exude this attitude, people will feel it, and it Will open them up to your influence.

Step 3 :- Cultivate the Third eye: The Vision

Most people are locked in the moment, they are prone to overreacting and panicking and only see narrow part of the Reality Facing the group

Those who elevate their perspective above the moment tap into the visionary powers of the human mind.

They stand out from the group, and create the aura of authority

This can be practiced and developed and applied to any situation.

Here’s how

You force yourself to raise your vision,to imagine the larger picture,

You bring a common enemy,

you open your mind to various possibilities and ideas

You forsee how things could go wrong and act according to it

Step 4:- Lead from the Front: The Tone

As a leader you must be working hard or even harder than everyone else

The members will feel compelled to raise themselves to your level

It is important that you set this tone from the beginning .

First impressions are critical. If you try later on to show you want to lead from the front, it will look forced and lack credibility. Equally important is to show some initial toughness; if people get the impression early on tthat they can maneuver you, they will do so mercilessly.

Begin this early on in your career by developing

the highest possible standards for your own work and

by training yourself to be constantly aware of how your manner and tone affect people in the subtlest of ways.

Step 5:- Stir Conflicting emotions: The Aura

Most people are too predictable.

To mix well in social situations,

they assume a persona that is consistent-jovial, pleasing, bold, sensitive. They try to hide other qualities that they are afraid to show.

As the leader, you want to be more mysterious, to establish a presence that fascinates people.

By sending mixed signals, by showing qualities that are ever so slightly contrary, you cause people to pause in their instant categorizations and to think about

who you really are. The more they think about you, the

larger and more authoritative your presence.

Related to this, you must learn to balance presence and absence. If you are too present and familiar,

always available and visible, you seem too boring .You

Give people no room to idealize you. But if you are too

aloof, people cannot identify with you. In general, it is

our values

lest to lean slightly more in the direction of absence, when you do appear before the group, you generate

Excitement and drama

Step 6:- Never take always Give

Taking something from people they have assumed they possessed--money, rights or privileges, time that is their own-creates a basic insecurity and will call

into question your authority and all the credit you have amassed. You make the members of the group feel

uncertain about the future .

Even the hint of this will harm your reputation.

If sacrifices are necessary, you are the first to make them,

Try to frame any loss of resources or privileges as temporary, and make it clear how quickly you will restore them.

Related to this, you must avoid overpromising to people. In the moment, it might feel good to let them

hear of the great things you will do for them, but people alter yo generally have an acute memory for promises, and if you fail to deliver, it will stick in their mind, even if you try to blame others or circumstances.

If this happens a second time, your authority begins to Fade. Not giving what you promised to deliver will feel like something you have taken away. Everyone can talk a good game and promise, and so you seem like just anyone else we encounter, and the disappointment can be alot

Step 7:- Rejuvenate your Authority: Adaptibility

You authority will grow with each action that inspires trut and respect.

But as vou get older, the authority you established can become rigid

You become the father who starts to seem controlling by how long he has monopolized power, no matter how deeply people admired you in the past.

A new generation inevitably Come that is immune to your charm, to the aura you have created.

The 1st step in avoiding this danger is to maintain sensitivity,

noting the moods behind people's words, gauging the effect you have on newcomers and young people.

Losing that empathy should be your greatest fear, as you will begin to cocoon yourself in your great reputation.

The 2nd step is to look for new markets and audiences to appeal to, which will force you to adapt.

Without making a fool of yourself by attempting to appeal to a them younger crowd that you cannot really understand,

try to alter your style somewhat with the passing years

Thats it , Someone can add something if they want too , I hope this helps