I was not expecting this. I can't remember a time when anyone took this much time out of their life to give me advice. Much less, a stranger and for free. I can't express how much this means to me. Thank you all.

There are some dots I want to connect here, if for nothing else, someone reading it will learn what I learned. 1. I become emotionally invested in women without her having any investment in me. 2. Because of my relentless dive for self improvement I now have more that one "frame" or lens through which people judge me. Old vs new. 1a. I would create a fantasy world where me and this chick are together. What I do now when I catch myself doing that is: I meditate. Focusing on my breathing clears my mind of whatever chick I'm thinking about. 2b. Looking back I see a pattern in myself. When I'm around people who don't know my history I able to be my true self, confident and charming. Then I get around my friends or family and I fall into my old comfortable loser mentality, because if I don't the fear is they will see through me and be like, Brady this isn't you stop acting like someone you're not.

It's not the customer, it's the product. Most of the stuff on this site is really good, invaluable info, but not really relevant to getting a girl to say yes to a date. I'd wager that those 5% are in LTR's. 50% of the posts are guys asking about some part of a LTR. The other 49% are about abstracts. The 1%, just 9 posts, are field reports. Don't get me wrong, LTR's are way more complex than the black and white, "Are you interested in going on a date with me?" I've jumped in on a free mastermind zoom and Paul was talking about how to fuck a girl really well, high level stuff. It would be the same as teaching me how to use the nav computer on a 747, good info, but I don't know how to fly an airplane. Until I have more experience with women and become skillful enough to get a "yes", then most of this site is, not off limits, but less accessible. Me thinks, the 400 inactive dudes would agree.

Rohith B That is called depression. Something I've battled with my whole life. Not until recently I found a solution and its very simple, but not easy. Do the thing you know you should be doing and the depression will lift away. Just this week I was feeling despondent and hopeless as well. I asked my self why and searched my feelings for the root. Oh!, you know what I didn't do yesterday, my aviation studies or my language studies. Two things things I told myself I would do every day. In effect I had lied to myself. I know this seems trivial, but I cannot stress how important it is to do the thing you know you should be doing, even for just 5 mins. You can at least tell yourself that you did it. Don't lie to yourself. This is the very root of depression. I told you it wouldn't be easy, but trust me it will work. The only catch is it takes daily maintenance, one slip and that black cloud or glass slope will come right back.

@John Rogalsky. Will you expand on approaching without the intent to get her number? If I'm just there to talk then I'm no different that her GF, I must be missing something. Thanks.

@Jeremy Roe What helped me was I hadn't jerked-off or looked at porn for 2 weeks and I had just worked out, me and her were leaving the gym at the same time. I've noticed I'm more confident and carefree after a workout. I hope this helps.