This is just a serious warning to you guys out there. Watch this video I just dropped (Most of you guys won't get it in your feed because algo's are suppressing it) https://youtu.be/x9bI-SVSXHo I recommend watching it (and liking it for algo's). This is something worth sending to friends who are on the fence about marriage. It's just so easy to get trapped in the system as a man and have your life ruined. Many of you guys already experienced that to a degree and that's what brought you here. The system offers very little protection for you automatically. So you guys have to remember to protect yourself. Your Frame and your skills are the only thing that will save you sometimes.

Lol the title isn’t me… I already have one anyway. That is how a lot of guys think and feel so let's look at it. A common thing for guys who are young and haven’t had abundance of dating experiences, or for guys who have gotten out of a marriage or bad relationship and haven’t been with a woman in awhile is to get that empty, sad feeling inside about not having a woman in their lives. This leads to the natural consclusion of a guy “wanting a girlfriend.” This may be the natural conclusion to you reading this but picture this. You have no less than 3 women you have sexual access too at all times who are pretty gorgeous and fun to be with. How would you feel about “needing a girlfriend” if that were the case? You wouldn’t need a girlfriend. You would be having a lot of fun as a single guy. Now, after awhile you might decide that you want a better match for a long term companion, as that would be very natural and the conclusion that most guys with this abundance come too. But that guy doesn’t feel pain and sadness and a stabbing in their gut because they “don’t have a girlfriend.” The guy with abundance knows its just a matter of time and the right person, and they are busy enjoying life while they can WITHOUT the commitment, even if that is what they eventually want. A guy had a question about this, so thought I would share. His question was: “Hey Paul, I remember maybe in one of your livestreams you mentioned it’s not good to feel an emotional pull to have a girlfriend. I’m writing this as I noticed just now I had a similar feeling. Just going shopping and I saw 2 attractive couples talking and having a good time, not really doing anything specific. I felt a pull and some pain and the thought “damn I wish I had a girlfriend”. Why is this not good and what do I do about it?” Here is my answer: Let me clarify. It is ok to want a girlfriend someday or to feel a pull towards a healthy long term relationship. But the pain of "damn I wish I had a girlfriend" comes from scarcity that will fuck up your game.

Hi guys! Paul was very gracious to invite me to his community. So here I am. Some of you probably have met and know me already. I've IRL met Paul, John Rogalsky, and Garen. I'm roommates with Vic who's a member. I met Paul through Rich Cooper. I am a fairly active participant on Rich's community. About me: 45yro, divorced. My current gf is Belarusian 13yr my junior. I work in tech, currently a VP of engineering at an IPO company that's worth $7bil. I also run my own contracting company on the side. My work focuses on data science, machine learning, and AI/LLM. I specialize in the healthcare industry. If you have question about cutting edge tech in the area, feel free to ask me. Life-wise I live in Nashville, but plan on moving in Q1-Q2 2025 abroad. I spin plates for a while after my divorced 4 years ago. But have been settled to a string of more exclusive relationship the past 2 years. They are all Eastern Europeans, as I like them. I don't date or interact much with American women. I drive a Porsche Boxster GTS and have 2 Ducati's (Multistrada and Streetfighter). I am an avid shooter, motorcyclist. I also practiced Iaijutsu for over a decade. Right now I spend my hobby times dancing Salsa and Argentine Tango. I also throw regular parties for the local dance communities. The last one we had 60+ in attendance, Spenser (another guy from Rich's community, may or maynot be here) and Garen were gracious to come as well. Rich always asks people "on a scale of 1-10 how would you rate yourself?". For me it's 8.5-9/10. Life is going well. Money, fitness, relationships, I have been working hard to constantly set new standards for myself. If I quit drinking I'd probably be a 10. But everyone has his own vices (lol). One of my interests is to help fellow men with red pill views. So I will chime in from time to time on subjects I'm familiar with. You can also find me on IG@Tango_Ducatista Nice to meet you all and glad to be here!

My LTR and I made things official (again) after breaking up in May. We started talking again at the end of June but started to quickly fall back into bad patterns. There were a lot of issues that came up, but one I’m still really struggling with was another guy she was dating during our break up. It’s not so much that she was dating again so quickly, as much as not being transparent about the attachment she was starting to develop. We went from wanting to get back together at the end of June and I’m her person, to there’s another guy, to she doesn’t know who to choose, to she needs time to make sure she doesn’t have feelings for this person all in the span on 7 days. It was a lot of lying by omission and keeping what I consider “secrets”. I understand why she did these things, but the trust was broken on my end. My LTR triggered a lot the trauma/wounds from my ex wife who cheated on me while we were married and played me until she was ready to discard me. I’m extremely sensitive to deception and anything that smells like manipulation. Some times it’s a valuable learned skill, other times I think I have a tendency to overreact and assume the worst. Currently with my LTR, we’re in a good spot and both working out our shit, but I’m having trouble letting go of what *could* be happening. My LTR has taken ownership of this other guy being a rebound, recognizing she was vulnerable and not making good decisions, has apologized for not being more honest about the situation, but I still have a lot of doubts and insecurities popping up in my head. We officially got back together this past weekend, and had a conversation about how she broke my trust and it will take time to build it back. I gave her the opportunity to come clean about anything she hadn’t told me, but aside from a few minor details there wasn’t anything ground breaking. I’m still struggling with wondering if she’s still texting this other guy. Did she end it or leave the door halfway open? Are there other people I don’t know about? Is she really being honest now, or keeping “secrets” until I ask the right questions? I have this strange feeling there’s still something she isn’t telling me but I’m concerned my prior relationships are clouding my judgement.