I’m grateful Emma did the emotional labor of: - Supporting me on my h pylori diagnosis after having unsuccessfully trying to get rid of it using natural means. You could have said “i told you so” but you didn’t and I appreciate that. Antibiotics here we go - Giving me a pep talk to go out dancing tonight despite not feeling up to it because it’s been 10 years since my Mother passing and it’s her birthday today. Emma helped me go and I needed that. Thank you for holding space for me - Dealing with my dumbass after you asked me to place your jacket “with the other jackets by the coffee table” my brain said “put it on top of the wet sweater that’s drying”. Don’t ask me why, my answer would be I was on autopilot. I’m sorry. Emma was relatively calm all things considered when I definitely dropped the ball on that one ☝️ - Related to the above, thank you for your patience in allowing me to circle back to this later after having eaten today as I didn’t immediately apologize. I was just coming back from the gym without eating and I’m crabby when I haven’t eaten yet. Had to move your car before breakfast as . So thank you for understanding , I was obviously in the wrong and appreciate you giving me the time to emotionally become neutral so that I can apologize without having to be asked.

I’m grateful Emma did the emotional labor of: - saying sorry for unintentionally eating the last Mac and beef empanada. Saying sorry for the both of us is hard so I will always immensely appreciate it as I’ll do better to apologize if/when I’m wrong. Neither of us knew it was the last one. We’ll get em next time 🥲😂 - Saying “peeved” instead of pissed off at terrible drivers because I know it’s hard in the moment due to immediate anger - Worrying that I’d burn myself for getting too close to super hot sheetpan. (This is me just being an idiot) Baby girl, I swear I’d be fine, but thank you for the concern - thinking about our dog Bella’s mortality (due to cancer) and vulnerably crying over it. I FEEL you even if I don’t outwardly show it

I’m grateful for Emma doing the emotional labor of: - communicating in a calm manner how she’d prefer to have chips closed so that they last longer - Patiently helping me with the basement clean up involving both our clothes and seasonal decorations. - Agreeing to “yes and” if I ever say two people kind of look alike (in this case joanna garcia vs sarah michelle Gellar 👀) as opposed to saying “no not at all”. - Gracefully scheduling tasks together for the day. I know doing brain dumps can be emotionally charging since we look at tasks we both wanted to already have done but we did it without a hitch

My name is Zach, married 9 years, together almost 11, living in Central MA, with one 3 year old. This work and coaching is what I do full time. What I hope to gain from this community is building a safe space for guys that want to learn to ask questions and improve their understanding of the mental load which many women have trusted in me to teach to the men in their lives

I'm grateful Emma did the the emotional labor of -being patient with not receiving trick or treaters despite getting fully ready and excited about the fact of getting asked to give candy -being patient with the clutter of the state of our kitchen table despite it not being fully cleared just yet - leaving our dog behind by herself even though our dog was lethargic yesterday from her vaccinations. I know she doesn’t like leaving her when she’s feeling a little down or in slight pain from being pricked. -relieving me of putting dishes into dishwasher without being asked before my scheduled time to do the chore. I know her seeing the counter top and/or sink being cluttered can be taxing for her