The First day back at college from summer...

Saw the girl I liked and nearly got with, with her boyfriend. (AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH)

Anyways...

Sat down in a new classroom for my subject and took a test on the first day, the same girls that I think liked me prior to summer, gave looks.

I talked to the literally only other boy that's in my class, catch up with him, joke around in good spirits.

Then after lesson, I see another one of my friends that's about to take the test I just did, I tell him the goods.

Then, I go into my tutor form (kinda like a subject (not really) that tells you what the school wants to tell you) and it's entirely new. See that I KNOW NO ONE, I sit next to a pillar on a big table on my own, the teacher (nice lad) asks me to sit on the back table because we're gonna to a group activity with a slight "is this okay?" facial expression, I say "yeah" non-chalantly, not knowing what I'm getting myself into.

I then grab my stuff and turn around...

Table of girls. Fuck.

Regardless of this though, I went and made my entrance, doing the group activity, suggesting creative weird ass ideas like people owning more dogs so food can be given to dogs and not wasted (we were doing a teamwork task on waste management), eye contact (made sure of it), relaxed as much as possible, full breath, and so on. Made a good impression there (atleast I think so)

Also realised there was actually a friend on the table next to the girl table I was on. That made it a lot more comfortable.

Then after that lesson and after the toilet I saw a friend of a friend, accompanied him to get his history books, nice chat.

Walked around abit for break trying to kill time.

Found couple of friends as break ended, talked a bit.

Went into another subject class, talked, joked, even talked about my channel for a while.

Went into another subject class, talked, caught up with people.

Then when waiting to be picked up after college ended (it was pouring rain, monsoon level)

Saw I what I think was my crush I used to have when I was little? now she's in college? didn't get to talk to her. FUCK.

Then when it was gym time, compliment some random dude washing his hands next to me about his moustache. Said it was for halloween and we briefly talked about facial hair and so on.

So...

If you've read down here. Why am I telling you this?

Well.

1) Your day is more interesting and you will be MORE grateful and FEEL MORE like your not just wasting your life away.

By journaling about your day, in any way or form, could be a couple sentences of the highlight of the day, could be a "5 minute journal" that tim ferriss does, and as you start to do this you might think that your day isn't that interesting or nothing happened.

BUT I will say.

As you sit there in your chair and truly dig at what happened that day.

You will find something.

2) The philosophy of getting warmed up socially or social flow.

Throughout the many interactions I had with different people throughout the day, although not noticing at first and in the moment, CERTAINLY when I was at the gym, I FELT SO SOCIAL, so effortlessly social I just randomly complimented a guys moustache.

To be social, you have to be social.

Especially after doing something a little outside your comfort zone AND SUCCEEDING. Like I did on that girls table. Will boost your confidence and charisma.

Keep that in mind if you feel like a sore social loser, get a small win, talk more to people, especially a girl. You will gain confidence in the moment.

All the best,

Benji

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