Recently closed a deal with zero stress or difficulty or even concern for three times more than I used to make at a full time job. It will take very little time and will be easy and enjoyable work.
I was just reflecting on how amazing it is to do something with joy and confidence that I, at one point, could NEVER have imagined myself doing.
How did this change happen?
I wasn't trained to do this. Everything I've learned was self taught, gleaned through someone else's wisdom along my path or simply learned (and this is really where most of it happened) through experience.
Nothing has given me more confidence in doing things THAN has DOING the things.
I've undersold myself REPEATEDLY.
But while I did that, I also OVERDELIVERED repeatedly... and that won me some powerful fans who helped me get more clients to serve.
In fact, I've never run an ad or had any kind of acquisition system for my business in all my 22 years. Word of mouth and my tiny bit of social media posting has always been enough to give me a very lucrative (once I learned how to charge properly) business. (Though that's about to change!)
I can tell you that the biggest difference between those who struggle to the point of breaking and those who struggle and then overcome is this one thing:
THEY SHOW UP AND DO THE THING.
They can hurt just as much as the one who stays struggling.
They are just as scared as the one who stays struggling.
They are often just as disorganized as the one who stays struggling.
They just DO IT ANYWAY.
And the gift that we get from doing the hard thing is that the hard thing is immediately and perpetually less hard... with one caveat: If you don't use it, you lose it.
Bottom line?
If it's hard and scary, do it anyway.
Being a failure, broke, stressed and hopeless is MUCH HARDER than asking for what you want.
It's also MUCH harder than working 80 hours a week if that's what it takes for you to deliver what you promised.
If you oversold and built yourself into a trap... get out of the trap and make a clearer, better offer next time with better boundaries.
EVERYTHING IS SOLVEABLE.
But every problem has to get solved by DOING.
Thinking will only offer you a theoretical solution.
The real solution will come from action.
The CONFIDENCE that you desire and the ease of showing up that you desire will ONLY come from doing the thing that scares you until it no longer scares you.
You can bank on that.
But test it.
Then come share your win.
<3 T