To recognise those of you who keep this group's conversations alive, I will reward the top 10 people with a special invite to an exclusive Ask Me Anything session (live!) where each of you will get to ask me a question and I'll answer it (even if you can't make it live) The recording from this session will be made available to all Brojo Skool members! So congrats to our winners this month: @Kent Curry, @Aaron Frater , @Shane Day, @Scott Harvey, @Chris Thompson , @Andy Wallam , @Gavin Giere , @Slava K , @Hemi Rainford , and @Charan Arora Thank you all for bringing life into this group with your contributions and insights.

Hey everyone I'll pin this post as a thread we can use to recommend and request resources from each other. So comment below either with your recommended resources (e.g. books, videos, courses you found helpful - from anyone) or ask for recommendations to help solve your issues.

Daily Dose of Integrity Do you ever wonder why you get so angry at random times or in random situations? I will let you in on a little secret: it's not random at all. The truth is, you've been saving up your anger. You've been investing, and this is the return on that investment. You've been building up your anger. Nobody punches someone in the face because of one moment of anger. They do it because they've been building it up for weeks or months. This is how murder happens. You know when a normally sane person commits a murder, it's not because someone just ticked them off a little bit. It’s because they've been suppressing anger their entire life. So, when you catch yourself binge drinking, doing risky behaviours, shouting at people or randomly quitting things that were going well, in those angry moments of reckless behaviour remind yourself: all of this is happening because you're not being honest, you are not setting boundaries and you are not respecting yourself in other areas of life. To dive deeper into this topic, check out the original video here: https://youtu.be/Z-fyUyzBeuY

Daily Dose of Integrity A kind person reminds you that actually, you are already doing really well. There's no pressure required. You're on top of things. A lot of people like to sell themselves a story about how badly they're doing, but often it doesn't line up with evidence. How many times have you said to yourself "I'm broke"? Well, how much money do you actually have? How come you got a roof over your head? How come there's food in the fridge? What do you mean by “broke”? Kindness isn't necessarily saying something like "Oh poor you!", that's pity. Kindness is reminding people, and sometimes challenging them, that they're actually doing all right. If you think "Oh, I'm a loser", think again: you are still here, fighting a good fight. A loser wouldn’t do that. If you are not a winner then how have you been able to survive for all of these years? A loser wouldn't be here. I don't mean to disrespect anyone who's passed away. On the contrary, I am pointing out one thing that I always keep in mind: for any living human being—suicide is an option. I'm in no way recommending it! Rather, I am trying to remind you of this: if you haven't taken that option, despite being aware that it's available, then you're a fighter! Have you forgotten that? To dive deeper into this topic, check out the original video here: https://youtu.be/TCLQPupQEeM

I've been chasing the gold pot at the end of the rainbow. Looking to attain financial success. So, the last several years have been devoted to that. After hitting the above goal, things didn't change on the inside. It's this huge 'hole' inside that money isn't filling. Neither are other outward successes. @Daniel Munro shared a keen insight, about being 'at peace' on the inside regardless of what happens on the outside. It's based on Stoicism and living one's life on rational thinking, not the fantasies going on in our minds. It's working on one's mind and seeing reality and nature as it is, without judging. Its a tall order, and I'm far from it. As shared in an earlier note, I sabotage success and then climb out of it (Feeling unworthy of success probably causes it, and not knowing how to handle success). I then spent the next few months /years climbing out of the hole, I dug myself into. I've been working on getting myself out of the last self-sabotage trades. This time, I want to interrupt the pattern and walk away while 'all is good'. I realize that I've been addicted to flashbacks and negative emotions of feeling helpless and put myself in these situations , with persons to relive these emotions. This also is to be stopped. Journalling., reflecting on these patterns and making notes on how to handle them next time, help with changing the behaviour the next time. 'An unexplained Life is not worth living' - Ralph Walden So, I decided to go by what lights me up. It's building a personality-based business around writing, speaking. I used to run a overseas recruitment business for several years Pre-COVID. I plan to restart this business, this time with more personality, content and a business plan that will allow me freedom and flexibility to work with who I want to work with, When I want to work with, and Where I want to work with. This is a pre-cursor to the 'real goal' that I'm shit scarred to attempt. That's building a personal brand lifestyle business. That starts as a free newsletter talking about issues mid-lifers like me have around life. I don't know if I am ready to start it. I have been thinking of this for 5 years or more.