The more you’re that guy she feels is just a little bit “too good” for her, the more she’ll respect you. Attraction isn’t about handing over your worth on a silver platter; it’s about making her work to feel she deserves you. Women get bored when they think they’ve “got you”—so keep a bit of mystery, a bit of distance, and stay just a notch out of her league. She needs that edge to keep chasing. 1. Don’t Show Your Cards Right Away Overeager guys crash and burn. Women don’t want a man they can immediately predict or control. Give her just enough to stay interested but keep a good chunk of yourself off the table. Let her earn her place. Your time, your approval—these aren’t things she gets without effort. If she’s uncertain, you stay on her mind longer. 2. Body Language That Speaks Confidence Stop fidgeting for her approval. Men who signal they’re the prize move with calm authority, not desperation. Don’t overdo the eye contact, touch, or compliments—let her come to you. Make her feel like she’s got competition, even if it’s in her head. Don’t give her a free pass to be the center of your world. 3. Keep Your Standards High—Make Her Work for It Women value what they earn, and the same goes for attention and approval. If you’re too easily impressed, you drop your value. She’ll chase when she feels you’re a high-standard man who isn’t won over by just anyone. Stay discerning, and she’ll feel the need to step up. 4. Drop the Routine, Drop the Predictability Predictability is poison. Switch it up, leave some gaps. If you’re always texting, calling, or free every weekend, you’ve made her the sun of your universe. Let her wonder. Make her reach out, let her experience your absence. When she can’t be certain, she’ll value the times you are there. 5. Treat Her Well, But Don’t Bow Down There’s a difference between being kind and being soft. Set boundaries. Don’t be afraid to say “no.” Women respect men who respect themselves more than anyone else. Give her kindness, but keep self-respect at the forefront.

Two days ago I went to this park cuz I was sick and tired of being home lonely. I spot this guy on a bench and go up to him and say " brother do you mind if I sit here ? " Being polite and respectful, turns out he's a super chill dude and we spoke for an hour about life and our struggles. So we get up and part our ways away and I walk in to this coffee shop. I stand in the line to order and the girl in front of me, her card gets declined, the barista comes round to her and checks what's wrong and tries to help her out. In the meantime I buy my latte and start sipping it walking around the shop instead of sitting, looking around the quotes and paintings. I walk around the exit and see the girl go " it's fine I'll go home " and starts walking towards the exit. That's when I was stood there and say " if you want I can buy you a coffee, you don't sound like you're from here, I'll help you ". And I was right, she wasn't from around here. Buy her the coffee and we talked for an hour and a half before we leave the coffee shop. Cute girl, bubbly personality, baby face, blonde, smily AF and a big time yapper. Oh and she's 23 and she said I looked 24 but I'm 20 lol. Maybe cuz I was dressed well. If you ask her about me she would give you a long description of a character which does not exist lmfao she thinks I'm a businessman boxer and player who travels around the world all the time who had a hard and interesting past life !!! As we leave I say " every girl I bring here always asking me to buy carrot cakes and pastries and shit, you made me spend the least money here with a girl", Which is big fat lie this is my second time with a girl in a coffee shop. " I only bought you coffee because I wanted to leave a good impression of this city and it's people because it is a nice city with nice people ". Our whole conversation was about cities and travelling and experiences so it was relevant. I walked her back to her street, shook hands and wished each other farewell and a nice life. Didn't ask for her IG or number just walked away.

Guys i really liked a girl for approximately 4 years,she is an extrovert and i am in between an introvert and extrovert. In my last day of college tour i proposed her,she said she only liked me as a friend. She is a great good girl,but i really likes her more than a friend. When she is more friendly towards other people,it makes be jealous and sad. I don't have any problem with talking to any other girls,but it's very hard to talk to her like i used to be. During the tour, i changed so much of myself,overcome my addictions,made more extroverted and genuine. The quality time i spend with her,was the best day of that whole college tour.

Hey guys, I'm 19 years old freshman in College and I still live with my mom. Is it impossible for me to get laid while I still don't have an apartment? Is it harder for me to get laid if I don't party as much? Must I have a girlfriend to get laid? Must I date women to get laid?

4 weeks ago my ex broke up with me, so I decided to start cold approaching. I was so fucking scared at the beginning and I failed often, but I learned along the way. Today I was walking home from grocery shopping and I saw this group of girls. One of them looked appealing to me. We helt eye contact whilst walking past each other. I didn't approach. "Why?" Because I didn't know what to say. "What?" You didn't know what to say and you felt unsure and bla bla bla. You approached 30ish girls in the last few weeks and you never had any idea about what to say and still did it. This is just an excuse because you haven't approached for a few days and you're out of the zone rn. This excuse won't get me again.