I'd say I'm feeling more optimistic in spurts. I spoke with John today and just mentioned that I haven't noticed any one big effect (I know that's not how it works anyway), but building the habit and sticking to the plan will pay off. Trust the process. Im fairly busy this week but Im continuing to develop the habits and play around with the sequence and will likely schedule a call next week to get into the hypnotherapy.

Day 3 - 11/14. I was a bit busier with work today and didnt have as much time to dedicate to stuff but i did get into some visualization in the morning for 10 minutes. I have been trying to break my usual habit of waking up and using my phone. I dont check socials a ton but i would catch myself checking emails and doing other shit i didnt need to do first thing. So far not doing that is helping. I'll just text my daughter (who doesnt live with me except every other weekend) and my LTR after I've gotten up and done my meditation or visualization work and started prepping to go work out. I also use the sauna at my gym 4-5 days a week for about 10-12 minutes and use that time to listen to alpha waves and visualize or meditate and just focus on what I'd like to accomplish for the day. Last night I also watched the Meditation 101 zoom call recording and then did the meditation with the recording . I found the "what's my next thought" technique a little helpful in trying to clear my thoughts but 3 days in is still a work in progress as I cant go very long without having some random thoughts or thinking about stuff I need to do but still havent done.

When I can actually get in a routine, yeah I'm definitely a morning person. I mostly just need about 10 minutes just to wake up and orient myself, then I can take 10 minutes. I've always just gotten up and gotten ready to hit the gym first thing. Making time for 10 minutes hasnt been difficult since I've started. I think it was mostly me viewing it as a low value add activity to my morning when I want to get moving and go to the gym. But its improved my mindset a bit just in the first few days Ive been doing it.

Our first inclination (usually because of a scarcity mindset), is to match and instantly start chatting. You need to have a plan. First, get them off the app ASAP. But, you want to start the convo when you know you will have a day or two free to go on dates. Dont start messaging/chatting but not be available for 5 days. If a girl matches and then unmatches after a day because there isnt a response then she wasnt high interest IMO. Once you get her phone number keep the convo to a minimum (logistics only for the most part). Opinions differ on this, but overtexting will get you into far more trouble than undertexting. Under 3 days a text to set the date up and confirm is good. No text second day. Third day, say the morning of or around lunch, just ping her. Something to the effect of "See you at 7, wear a little black dress for me". It can be difficult, but setting up multiple dates a few hours apart can be done so you arent wasting your time if one of them flakes. Again, trying to set up anything further out than 5 days just really increases the likelihood they flake. But girls make time for men they are interested in. So if you suggest a couple dates near term and she declines without suggesting a date herself that's usually a bad sign to begin with. If she does give you options usually that shows genuine interest. Don't get attached to any girl. No texting pics, no hey how was your day, none of that. Save that for the date when she has actually committed. Now one I thing I have done that works very well is during the initial text is ask her for a selfie so you can use it for her contact info. Does she send you a cute selfie with a smile, is the pic old, is she hesitant? I know this can create a bit of dread for some girls but most of them are very open to it and it shows that you are interested.