What I never see video content from anybody on is the initial text game. I know Corey Wayne says you have to get the ball rolling and then expect the woman to do most of the pursuing. My conundrum is when I match online get a phone number and they are reluctant to reach out. Many of them will flake anyway so I feel like you have to create a bridge until you can actually meet. The bridge meaning daily text may be a picture, something to keep them engaged. Am I wrong on this? And should I sit back and make the woman either text First occasionally or forget about the thread? Again, I’m talking mainly about the few days or week between linking up phone numbers and actually meeting.

I spoke with @John Rogalsky today and he asked me about progress. During the convo I stated that focus or trying not to in the case of "no-minded" meditation has been the biggest struggle. During meditation, stuff inevitably pops into my head, but usually menial stuff like errands i need to run, my workouts, etc. We both have had talks with Paul as well and came to the same conclusion. This stuff takes time to master, just like anything else worth doing. Mainly as Ive stated before, early on this is still about building the habits to make them behaviors and trusting the process and plan. I've really enjoyed the post meal walks especially and try to just "let go" a bit and let my mind drift, coming up with ideas and being generally more positive about the future.

I started going through the breakup recovery class, and was reflecting on just how during my last LTR I checked a lot of the blocks of how to not deal with a break up. Even after my first marriage I know for sure I did not deal with it right. I'm going to have to moveving forward pay attention and learn the skills about breaking attachments in a healthy way. The do's and don't. As I drove home from the hospital after working a late shift I got thinking. How do you deal with the trauma of death in a healthy way. I'm around death from time to time. More then average in my line of work. And one thing I have observed is a lot of times most people don't really prepare for the lose of a loved one. Aside from all the logistics and financial side of dealing with the death of a loved one, how about dealing with the emotional side of death and what it does to the brain. Death can just come out of nowhere. You're never really ready for it. I have watched families, husbands, wives, daghters, mothers, brothers, try to reason with the idea of why? One minute my family member was good and now they are going down hill. As if there is some moral reason as to why there loved one is now at deaths door. Because death is something we all will face some day, I want to know a few things. #1 what is the healthy grieving process? #2 what are things you should avoid during the grieving process in order to heal and have the best bounce back to life? Drugs, alcohol, porn, escape ECT?? #3 what are realistic and healthy expectations you should have if you go through the grieving process properly? What are expectations if you don't do it properly? None of us know when we will lose someone close to us. It can rock your world, make you see the world in a different light and can change your future for better or worse depending on how you handle it. I would like to have a plan in place, to train my brain to handle this. @Paul Benjamin what are your thoughts and process for dealing with death as I listed above? As my dad grows in age this comes to mind, not that I expect it to happen soon. We have had some close calls.

I've stuck to the morning routine of waking up and within about 10 minutes doing some visualization or meditation. I've used audio aids and just swapped between Theta waves or an "Om" chant I've found on youtube. Still working on clearing my thoughts for the meditations. For the visualization I've also been working on doing the work along the way and making the right choices. Not just the end state. Similar to what is common practice among athletes and I believe Paul mentions it in the video where a study was done. One group of students only visualized making a good grade and/or the end state and the emotions involved with the outcome. The other group of students imagined studying and doing the work. More focus on the practice portion than the end state. The students who visualized the practice and studying got better grades than the other group. So, my thought here is to focus on working on and fixing things along the way as well as that vision for where I'd like to be. I also meditate or do visualization the sauna at the gym about 4-5 days a week as well as in the tanning bed2-3 times a week. Seems like a very useful time to do it and there is very little distraction in those places. Still continuing to tweak things as far as routine to see what I think is most effective.

Was a little short on time yesterday but I take time in the morning to listen to some Theta waves and catch the sun coming up. Just tried to visualize what I wanted to accomplish for the day and some peak state. The peak state vision has been almost like a panoramic photo. Im in the center, in my best physicial condition, happy and positive. Im surrounded by my LTR and my daughter along with her 2 kids. Behind me is a large contemporary style house, 4 car garage. Then Imagining myself being financially free to where I can travel to several tropical locales every year, a thriving business (not sure what type/industry although I've been gravitating towards home services of several types). Just continuing to try and eliminate the noise and get dialed in to see what comes into focus. Did an afternoon meditation using "Om" chanting just trying to let go of all thoughts. Hasnt been perfect and probably catch myself drifting into thoughts more often than not but consistency hopefully pays off here.