Hello guys, I've been going out specifically to cold approach (CA) for the past five days without any previous experience, and I've been very introverted most of my life. Long story short, I did one approach, and I didn't handle the conversation well, but the girl was happy that I talked to her, so at least one good thing came out of this. I learned a lot of things about myself in the process. I aim to include a lot of details so this is probably going to be a longer post. Bear with me guys. Also, this post serves for me as a self-analyzing document and for tracking my progress. The information here is completely unfiltered and honest. My struggles ======== 1. Neverending excuses This is so far the most common issue I have. No matter the girl, no matter the situation, my brain always comes up with a perfect excuse why not to approach the girl. The most common excuses: - There are too many people around her - not appropriate (fear of embarrassment) - She's with a friend - Don't want to approach groups without experience (fear of embarrassment) - She's eating - approaching or longer conversation can be intrusive (might be a valid excuse) - The age doesn't add up - not appropriate (might be a valid excuse) - She is in a hurry - not appropriate (fear of rejection or being intrusive) - She's out of my league (fear of rejection) (does not happen often) - She shows no IOIs (indicator of interest) - (doesn't even make sense for CA) - Generally not appropriate to approach due to something... 2. Waiting for IOI (indication of interest) confirmation Some girls show IOIs. But I consider that to be confirmed after showing at least 2-3 IOIs. In the past 5 days, I realized that I wait for the confirmation often. However, the problem is that in my experience, most of the girls are shy, and will only provide me with the confirming IOI once they are sure that they see you for the last time, and it is too late to act. Note: I try to learn and train CA. I shouldn't even care about IOIs at this point...

I’m finding my self still awake after more than 90 minutes of closed eyes and slow breathing! This is a thing that really triggers me because … after 4 years of night school where students would finish at 12 in the evening plus dinner and way back home… my mental routine it’s still the same! I can’t fall a sleep before 12 in the evening! What’s about that? My father wants to give me some medicine 💊 to sleep but then I wake up like a zombie! What should I do?

Hey guys, I wanted to share with you a day I consider the beggining of my social life and overall turning point in my life. This happend about 5 weeks ago. I consider myself to have little to none social and communication skills. I have almost no friends, I think I am seen by most people as boring and unspontaneous. I went to my first meetup. A language exchange thing I randomly found on meetup.com. The meetup was in the evening in a bar. Only English should have been spoken there (not my native language). I was nervous the entire day, and almost didn't go, but I wanted to overcome this instinct of mine. The meetup ended up being amazing! There were about 30 people, but nobody knew anyone there which made it much more friendly for introverts like me. I kinda felt I fit it, a feeling pretty new to me. I was used to trying to socialize in groups where people knew each other, where I always felt like an outsider, there was the original group, and then there was me. But on these meetups, it's completely different. A lot of people didn't talk much, and it was completely fine, and fully respected by everyone. When most of the people left, I went to the last small group, asked to join and ended up talking to them the rest of the evening. The amazing thing about this was, each one of that group was interacting with me, and they almost didn't talk to each other. That felt just amazing, for that moment I was in the center of attention. I almost started to question if I am actually introverted. I never thought that being center of attention in a group would feel so great. It seems very addictive. I am still hyped from the first meetup. I am now going twice a week and continue to improve my communication skills (being funny, leading conversations,...) (I am looking for book recommendations on this topic). There have been bad meetups where I really questioned my self and even left because nobody would talk to me. But I didn't give up and went across the city to another meetup where I've met amazing people. I realized, lot of times, things are just out of my control, and if that means leaving, that's fine.