Daily Dose of Integrity My truth is more valuable than my lies. While your truth may hurt someone's feelings or it might be something that they can't quite handle at the moment, it is accurate information— which means they can use it. They can make decisions. They can plan. They can decide what they're going to do with you and with their life around you based on information that's true. So, it's probably going to be the best decisions that they can make. When you feed them lies and deception that's what they make their decisions off—that can lead them down a false path, that can lead them to a fake life. If, for example, they think that you like them when you don't, they might make plans around you liking them, and then be disappointed and crushed when they finally realize that you don't. It crushes all their plans. So, make sure people are getting the best information they possibly can to make decisions —and that information is the truth.

Perhaps this is more about my family dynamics growing up, but it seems to be tied into my people pleasing / good guy-isms: My wife started asking me to only tell her straight-on what I want from her or a situation. Apparently, without even realizing it, I keep asking indirectly or "caveating" an entire context before asking for something, as if I'm always afraid the answer will be scary or create problems or reveal who I actually am. (I do this with everyone.) I didn't think this was a big deal at first, but I'm still struggling to match my internal emotion/desire with a straightforward statement or question that is shed of all ambiguity. It feels like I'm learning to speak adult English for the first time. Identifying my internal emotion with a related statement somehow feels uncouth - or at least that's what I seem to have been justifying to myself internally for my entire life. Honest Question: Has anyone else noticed themselves using this type of sideways conversations or a general reluctance to simply state their truthful desire to others? Or does everyone already know this and I'm coming late to the party?

Hey everyone! I'm just joining the discussion form. Where in the world are you from? - Living in Austin, TX, originally from Erie, Pa Self -Improvement goal for the year: - I want to dive deeper into my life as a nice guy, develop greater confidence in myself, and create a life I've been missing out on for all these years. Then, as I progress, I want to roll into a healthy dating life. What challenge do I want to overcome next: - Resorting back to the same ways that I've been conditioned to have throughout the last 29 years