Girls get board easy, So Keep It Fun!

This weekend I had a good time with a girl I have been seeing for about a year now. We are casual, and have built a close relationship with ups and downs. Her Nick name is Bopers. I tell you this in cause you read my past posts about our relationship and it's evaluation, and my changes/ growth.

Anyway. We had a good weekend full of Good food, good sex, fun times and memories made. But most of all insights and lessons. Girls get board in the bedroom if you don't evolveand level up in your sexual adventures. Would you all agree? It depends on the girl on what specific sexual adventures they want and you want. Some like it crazy wild and rough. All want to be dominated and degraded, and want comfort and love in various degrees. All girls well at least most get off on doing what makes the man happy and geting him off gets them off. It's about making us happy first and then also. All girls will get board if we do the same old things. All girls want a man to lead them on this sexual journey. They want the ride and the thril. A sexual story so to speak. How wild that story goes will be for you as the man to decided for your liking and also to figure out and lead for her liking also. In this cause it's me doing he discovering and learning by putting what I know into peactice. Please add your thoughts and feel free to give me insights as we all have bild spots we do not see. Now for story time! 😁

After a beautiful meal, Boppers and I head to the mall to do some window shopping. We go into spesors and start looking at all the sex toys, BDSM gear and sexy outfits. You name it we looked at it all. Everything from nipple clamps, to monster cock dildos. LMFAO! While looking I was taking a pule on her as to what she was interested in trying. I took down the nipple clamps and she was like "ohhhh I would try that....but maybe not...but actually yes I kind want to try it." She looked at the monster alien dildo on the wall, I was like would you try that. Her response was "Yes!.... I mean would you get off on watching me use it"? Lol she was asking to get a read on what she could do to make me happy.

After leaving the mall, we got some tea and made our way back to my place . On the drive she asked me. "Don't you get board doing the same old thing in the bed room?" My feeling in my gut was a bit of defensiveness. Almost like oh no I'm not pleasing her and she is getting board. But I did not respond in a defensive way. I know that as a man it was my responsibility to lead the sexual journey. I also knew that if you do the same old things girls get board. Girls get board in a stable relationship. They want the thril.

So My response to the question of "don't you get board with doing the same old things" was this. In a sly voice....ohhhhh so You want to get a little spicy do ya!? She again brought up the nipple clamps. I took her to my place and brought her up to my room. I know that I needed to change things up, so I executed the objective of moving the sexual needle forward by doing things different. It's easy to get complacent in the bedroom if we don't have the experience or awareness. As I do things in real life and take action I start connecting dots. Back to the story. 😎

I put boppers on the bed and told her to stay. She was fully clothed with a button up jacket on. My bed restraints already hooked up to the bad. I pulled out the leather cuffs and tied her up legs and feet to the bed. I got out the blind fold and sat it next to her. I told her to wait here. Lol it's not like she could go any place. 🤣. I went downstairs and got a cup of ice cubes and sat them next to the bed. I then grabbed the eye covers and put them on, then took hold of my leather horse crop. I worked it up and down her body using the leather tip, then used the cold handle as well. After pulling her pants down and fully exposing her chest I went for the ice cubes. Taking hold of the ice in my mouth I worked it all over her body, watching her reactions. I Sucked on her tits and rubbed her pussy through her panties. I face faced her, than gave her a good fucking after releasing her legs from the bed cuffs.

As I did all these things I started connecting dots from all the information I got from

@Paul Benjamin

over the years of videos . Girls get board easy in the bed room. It takes a guy with balls and insight to lead the chick to try new things. And she wants us to make the first move and take her to that place. Even training her. Not saying I have done "training a girl" just yet.

Me showing her the toys opened up her already dirty mind and made me aware of her wants. And my want too. It also helped me know that it's up to us men to lead the way. She is not going to do the dirty things, unless we do them first. We open the door, she walks through. This further opens my eyes to the fact that we are in the driver's seat . Not just in the bedroom, but in all areas of the relationship. But the big take away was that girls get board easy if things stay the same. It's up to us men to learn the skills and step out of our comfort zone and make the sex and experiences exciting! It's leadership out simply. I feel like I'm seeing this for the first time. With fresh new eyes of awareness.

Also I am learning that it's not just about doing what makes the girl happy. It's about doing what makes us fucking happy first and foremost. Because if we are happy they are happy. God damn it took me a long fucking time to learn this! I still feel guilty even typing this out right now. It's the old conditioning of , put the girl first bandaid that I am filing the fuck off! Lol

Please leave your thoughts and comments. Have you guys had this kind of eye opening experience? I'd love to hear it.

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