How to always have something interesting to say to a girl to keep her interested and seduced?

Quick one here but an important message to everyone : the group has almost 500 Members of men from around the world who are aligned in maximizing relationships and higher level thinking. Under Paul’s leadership we really have something special here, SO USE IT! Today on my way home from a work conference I met up with @Austin Wright. I didn’t have too long as I was exhausted from a long ass week and wanted to get home, but I’m happy we both took the time to meet each other and form a connection. It’s hard enough to find healthy relationships, and even harder to find another guy who has similar skills and walking the same path. I’d really encourage all of us to start taking more initiative in using the group to our advantage. You can only get so far working from behind a screen. ***ignore the horrible lighting, we didn’t look like total serial killers I promise lol***

What’s up gentlemen? I’ve been following Paul for a couple years in the shadows. I found him from MLD’s channel. I feel like I’ve made some decent progress on my own in certain areas but I also know I have a lot to catch up on. Making up for lost time is a sentiment I feel often. I’m 33 as of 11/12 and located in Raleigh, North Carolina. To give a little about what brought me here I would start with saying I grew up in an Italian family and stayed a little too close to the nest for too long. About the time I started trying to push myself out in the works(at the late age of 25 lol) my father died suddenly of a heart attack while we were having dinner. My mother was not very independent and had just gone into remission from a battle with cancer and required a lot of attention. This led to several years of me acting like a child basically but also trying my best to be there for her. Typical Italian situation with a ridiculous mother/ mommy issues. Again I started to venture out on my own a tad, with my mother living with my sister for a time, and my mom got diagnosed with cancer a second time. This time is was basically a death sentence. My sister and family are not really great people, so it kinda was on me to take care of her. It was a 24/7 thing for about 2 years. I had been wasting my 20s away smoking weed and not really doing anything other than training(mma/powerlifting) and hooking up with tinder goblins(being honest lol). So because of that I had burned through any scraps of savings I had and when my mother died I had nothing. Just a half broken down car and no where to stay. Started sleeping in the car and showering at the gym. Started working as much as I could, definitely didn’t start getting my shit together until about a year after she passed though. It’s been 3 years since she died and I am happy to say I have quit all addictions(weed, some porn and shitty food), have a place now with a buddy. A better car and a career doing something I’ve always wanted to do, I’m a private investigator. Hoping to turn those skills into a business of my own within a couple years.

I sent this to @John Rogalsky by Dm, but figured I would ask for clarity as to why girls put walls like this up, or in this case I feel a sexual action threshold. I coped pasted the DM directly below. @Paul Benjamin I just want clerty on why girls have the sexual action threshold and see if this was the resistance I saw below. This was a older woman 50 lol 😁. Her daughter is away at navy boot camp and kinda set us up at a going away party. Totally casual. The daughter worked under me at one point. No longer in thet organization. Long story short. I went on a few dates with one of my coworkers Mom's lol. She left for boot camp and interduced me at her going away party. We went out for drinks a few weeks later the first night at baccos wine bar. I texted her because I had got her number at the party but did not reach out for a few weeks. We had a fun time. We enjoyed some good drinks and conversations. She already knows that this was casual cuz her daught warned her I was not the settling down sort. Lol. I ended up making out with her after walking her to her car. ( That's normally the place I'll push for a first kiss). The 2nd date I texted her that we would hit the golf range, then come back to my place for some wine and fun. 🥂😏. We hit some balls. She was a bit self conscious and scared to hit the balls in front of others, but I made her get out of her comfort zone in a flirty way. We made out in my room. Had a good time, opened a bottle of wine. I even tied her up with some bdsm restraints. But after going for the pants to take them off she gave me the "be good line". And said sex is not happening. I just smiled and ended up taking off her shirt. I'm on top of her at this point. Sucking on her tits ext.. I go for the pants again and she said be good. This was the 2nd time of saying no. Basically 3 times. At this point she gave me a simaler line as she gave you. She asked me "are you mad, you are used to just getting your way with girls." Then went on to tell me about how she friend zoned her ex boyfriend . I laughed, said I never been friend zoned then said why the fuck would I be mad, in a playful voice. I took my pants off, and pulled my dick out and told her to suck it. She did. Like a pro. Ended up face fucking her. She told me to lay on my back. Long story short she gave one of the best blow jobs I have had and ended up cuming in her mouth. She did not even hesitate to swallow.

This happend recently but I want to discuss it for the future. I don't wish to bury the lead, I couldn't stop the emotional investment on this one, girls a great prospect. A recent first date went well, but then in retrospect I realized I was a bit pushy to get her back to mine, then she kinda just ghosted after the date. After the date, I was still happy with the result despite this so I sent her a text some hours later that she was fun to hangout and would like to see her again, then the ghost. Now, this is the first time I've been ghosted, my plan would currently be to ask her if everythings alright maybe after the weekend or something. My main question of this discussion is, do you calibrate your takeaway with how you messed up, maybe I say that "I might've given the wrong impression, of course I want to have fun but I might've been a bit disrespectful" (I will say it in a nonqualifying way, but maybe it just is qualifying by me even reaching out). The other side of me could just next her and see my other girls, then again I don't want to leave good prospects on the table and maybe I can save this. TLDR; If you mess up a little on a date, do you try-, and how do you try to keep seeing her after she ghosts.