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New comment 10d ago
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Ghosted after a first date (TLDR)
This happend recently but I want to discuss it for the future. I don't wish to bury the lead, I couldn't stop the emotional investment on this one, girls a great prospect. A recent first date went well, but then in retrospect I realized I was a bit pushy to get her back to mine, then she kinda just ghosted after the date. After the date, I was still happy with the result despite this so I sent her a text some hours later that she was fun to hangout and would like to see her again, then the ghost. Now, this is the first time I've been ghosted, my plan would currently be to ask her if everythings alright maybe after the weekend or something. My main question of this discussion is, do you calibrate your takeaway with how you messed up, maybe I say that "I might've given the wrong impression, of course I want to have fun but I might've been a bit disrespectful" (I will say it in a nonqualifying way, but maybe it just is qualifying by me even reaching out). The other side of me could just next her and see my other girls, then again I don't want to leave good prospects on the table and maybe I can save this. TLDR; If you mess up a little on a date, do you try-, and how do you try to keep seeing her after she ghosts.
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New comment 5d ago
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This can happen in marriages as well. As my communication with my ex deteriorated I would always ask my ex if we were ok. I know that fucking drove her nuts. I will never ask that question to any woman again. Honestly, who gives a shit. It is important to always keep your frame through any relationship with a woman. It will workout best for you.
{ASK} : Alpha Mindset : Module 4
A lot of the recent discussions around the Alpha Mindset course has gotten me curious again, and I’m starting to go through the material a 2nd time. Mod 4 “Neural Behavioral Conditioning” has really struck a chord with me, especially the part where Paul gives the example of military training. In firearms training, when a mistake is made they signal the issue with “MALFUNCTION” and then proceed to amend the mistake. Rinse and repeat, fix then repeat. Last week I broke up with my LTR, and working on my own mindset around the relationship while deciding if either/both of us are capable of a casual relationship. Since watching the module last night, now when facing a thought of “man this sucks”, immediately catch the “malfunction” and tell myself : NO, this sucks FOR HER. And then a few minutes later I might have another though “this is really sad”, but quickly remind myself : NO, this sucks FOR HER. While my ex is a very special girl with a lot of great qualities, I’ve learned about myself this year that no matter what I’m always going to come out on top. No matter how big the setback, I have the grit and ability to set my ego aside in order to experience massive growth. So when I catch myself having a weak moment, I allow my mind to absorb the thought that yes it sucks if she’s going to be out of my life, but I’m the type of man that will always do better. This is why if we inevitably can’t work through this, it really sucks FOR HER, and I’ll continue to sand down my blind spots and become a better, more attractive and higher SMV man. What do you guys think? Do any members do something similar? Do you think I have a good grasp on the video and how to apply it?
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New comment 11d ago
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John, I wish the best for you in your LTR. I just know in many cases that once a woman is checked out, she is checked out and no going back. I knew for about 12 months that my newly ex was checked out and she was basically waiting for the moment to break the marriage. I reached out to her for about 10 days after I moved out and after that I pretty much said, fuck it, it's not worth it. It wasn't until the last couple of days where I am finally feeling less emotional about my marital situation. Over the past 60 days relatively speaking I have been handling everything pretty well. I have had a therapist for the past 6 years help me through the relationships with my family and my daughter's mom and my soon to be ex wife. After reading your post I do believe that even though my ex is very beautiful, she is 47, clinically depressed, and has always had a low sex drive. I do believe this whole situation really sucks more for her than me. I still feel that I am a fairly attractive man that has kept in shape and has always been able to get women throughout my life. If I take the approach that this sucks for her than I can keep moving forward and even be a better version of myself as I hit my 46th year of life. I would prefer to date someone much younger. Again, it sucks for her and not me. I have a lot of life left to live!
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Austin, such great insight! Breakups are terrible trauma to our brain. We don't really realize how bad it is until you're really into the trenches of it. I am grateful for this community that I can say that I am in real pain and some days are better or worse than others. I have a supportive family and a couple of really good friends that have helped through this. I know with Paul's help I will be able to put my best foot forward. It's all I can ask for. I hope someday I can attend a meet up and we can all "chop it up" and tell our war stories in person and how we have come around and make our lives extremely better than before.
Breakup Recovery mini-course is now in your classroom!
Hey guys, I haven't been active much here for the past few days but I have been working on a lot of stuff that'll benefit everyone. One of these is a mini-course on the neurology behind attachments, and a protocol for successfully breaking attachment and becoming BETTER from it and being a better version of yourself afterwards. It is REALLY important to understand how attachment works if you expect to have top level experiences with women in relationships and dating. So much self protection and trauma happens when we don't understand attachments, and when we don't have the skills to break them when relationships end. When you have these skills women CAN'T really hurt you or have power over you, and you are able to freely attach and have deep relationships without fear or worry. This material (what I call a mini-course) is packed with valuable information and a clear action plan, and is worth a few hundred bucks as product. However I impart these skills as a gift to you just for joining and supporting the community. And my mastermind and elite members already have access to more in depth material in the seduction course, but this short course will compliment that material well. The course is in your classroom right now (let me know if you can't access it for some reason. Enjoy!
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New comment 11d ago
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John, you have definitely helped me immensely. I have done my best to have no contact with my ex and today is Day 60. I don’t know how long you have been together with her, but I wouldn’t even know what to say to my soon to be ex wife after the close to 5 years together. I wish you the best. I have a call with Paul this afternoon and I want to navigate what to do after my divorce so I can get all the positives out of the this upcoming divorce.
Meditation and visualization
This will be the start of a running log of daily meditation and visualization. Here I'll update about actions, progress, mental blocks, and results. This is an area of very high focus for me right now in order to clear a massive amount of mental "noise" I have with regard to the direction my life is headed. Paul has modules on these items, and for anybody struggling with issues, this could help provide some clarity. As I mentioned I am going to copy journal entries directly from my notepad. I think hand writing them first is a great way to de-clutter your thoughts and almost practice a bit of mindful meditation by writing since we all just type to text now. To me, I retain things better when hand writing them. Day 1 - As of now the clarity for some things in the future non-existent. My plan is to use all these tools day by day to help remove the noise, little by little. This is going to take a lot of practice for me personally because of the amount of thoughts I can have at any one time. I'll implement audio aids such as alpha waves and "om" chanting videos. Along with these I'll be doing several walks a day after meals and in between when I can as well as meditating in place with the visualization exercise.
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New comment 9d ago
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That’s so funny. I had a great therapy session last night. An actual break thru. This morning I journaled all the key points of the session and will read this when I am feeling those nostalgic feelings that Paul talks about. I will continue journaling and I believe that will help me get through the separation/divorce.
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