3d ago in General discussion
{SHARE} : Can The Best Be Too Much?
Quick one here this morning, but a powerful one for us all. Theres always a lot of talk about being a girls best, and how it’s essential to keep any LTR going over the years. Whats seldomly talked about though is when you are a girls best, but the relationship still fails…
I dealt with flavors of this dynamic over the summer when my ex LTR and I split and then tried to get back together. She would communicate how much she loved me, how she was scared to live without me and wondered if she’d go the rest of her life regretting not choosing to stay together. It was a confusing message at the time, and still is to a degree, however after coaching with Paul the last few months I feel better prepared to handle the lesson.
When my ex LTR and I are on, the relationship is one of the best things I’ve ever experienced. Her desire is off the charts and she begins to compliment my life in ways that’s hard to find. But like all relationships, when we start to hit a hurdle, her low self esteem gets triggered and she goes into protection mode. Subconsciously she knows I’m her best, and giving a dominant man like myself gives me the power to hurt her.
Paul always says a girl losing her alpha communicates DEATH to the monkey brain, and women will do all sorts of things to protect themselves if they aren’t capable of surrendering to a relationship. Deep down some women know when they are sitting across from the best man they’ll likely ever be with, and rather than be vulnerable during challenging times, they fight for power in order to feel safe and secure.
Below is a screenshot from my ex, whom at least for now we are still seeing each other casually without commitment in order to take a lot of pressure off of ourselves. We got together last Friday night for drinks and had an amazing time together. The screenshot below is from a few days later. The old me would’ve been confused by this message : if I’m her best/alpha, why isn’t she fighting to be with me? The reality is, a woman who is capable doesn’t have the capacity to fight due to her fear of being abdandonded or discarded.
Let this be a reminder that the work doesn’t always end with being a woman’s best. Some instances it can cause a woman you have a crazy connection with to crumble under the pressure.
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{SHARE} : Can The Best Be Too Much?
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