{SHARE} : High Desire, No Reply…

Another quick one this morning but spinning off of my post yesterday, when desire isn’t enough…

Last week I cold approached a girl at the grocery store; but it was a pretty warm lead. She works at the store and has given me obvious signs of wanting me to approach, but I never moved it past more than a smile out of respect for my LTR at the time.

Last Friday we happened to cross paths and she waived to me with a big smile. Now that I’m single I didn’t want to let an easy opener pass by. We exchanged some banter for a few mins, she was asking date type questions (do you work for that company, how old is your dog, how is your week) and I closed with her instagram telling her we’ll grab drinks. A half hour later she followed me back and watched my stories, more signs of high interest.

I had a busy weekend and held off until on opening her on IG, but hit her up on Sunday evening. She’s only watched one of my stories since, and hasn’t opened/replied to my opener. My old framework would’ve been : man what did I do wrong, I thought for sure she was into me…

After chatting with Paul, I now know I can create desire in a woman, and more importantly I’m getting more familiar with what that looks like. With my new mindset, I’m starting consider more nuanced possibilities. Maybe I didn’t do anything wrong, maybe I killed it and she does have high desire, but maybe there’s something with HER. Maybe there’s a guy in the picture but she couldn’t help but flirt with me, or she doesn’t think a guy like me would want more than a hook up and she isn’t in that kind of place right now etc.

We tend to focus too much on the negatives instead of the nuance. I believe this is where strong inner game comes in. What types of situations have you guys run into where the interaction goes really well but for one reason or another it stalls out?

And for

@Paul Benjamin

what are some of the things we can look for to see if it’s a game issue, or a woman issue when dealing with these types of situations?

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