"IF I can hide my flaws and become what I think others want me to be THEN I will be loved, get my needs met, and have a problem-free life." Who out of the 3 options does this sound like to you?

Mate @Vishad Doshi , it's one of the mind blowing exercise mate I have done in my life , as I said your stuff are awesome and my experiences made me realize many things about my being as you said I didn't force myself this time or set too much short time limit mate and I just sit down started to write what are my thoughts that are flowing about What do you want your life to look like? I took a moment to notice that my hate is particularly high in certain area but I don't know why it is so so as you said find I don’t want/like I don’t want/like one of the worst experience In life is to be surrounded by colleagues where they keep on clapping for your victory but you feel like shit inside and still smiling to the outside world Even more ridiculous BS 🤬 is when you're lead is ready to migrate to another company for his own good but freaking recommending you to stay in the company even after I rejected the offer for 2 times saying I feel like shit inside, I can not go longer I said I need rest for minimum 6 months they counter with the same shit universal diagloue of Boomers I am saying for your own good, don't quit the moment I joined the job I knew I am too good for this freaking company and envisioned one day I will be leaving the company to purse something beyond In my experience of working hard till burnout in AWS cloud real time project for my company , I realized now biggest assest is NOT DATA OR INFORMATION but creating a place and path where DATA AND INFORMATION FLOWS NATURALLY as Human are lazy oops path of least resistance creatures, they go with the flow. ................. my job is to critique and automate the current infrastructure laid out plan one day I critiqued major security issue, what he said still rings in my mind It shouldn't be the thing we should be leaving alone but what else we do if our allocated budget isn't meant to cover the security aspects but only functional aspects my lead always used to say

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As we've explored in previous posts, there's a subtle distinction between self worth and self esteem. In the last post, we took a look at what high self worth looks like. Now let's give some colour to what low self-esteem looks like. Do these sound familiar? - Low self confidence People with low self-confidence tend to have low self-esteem, and vice versa. Low self-esteem can play a role in causing a lack of confidence, but poor confidence can also contribute to or worsen poor self-esteem. Being confident in yourself and your abilities allows you to know that you can rely on yourself to manage different situations. This self-trust means that you feel comfortable and confident navigating many different things you might encounter in life, which can play an important role in your overall well-being - Lack of control People who have low self-esteem often feel that they have little control over their lives or what happens to them. This can be due to the feeling that they have little ability to create changes in themselves or in the world. This indicates an external locus of control, which is a psychological concept that examines whether you place control over events and outcomes internally or externally. For example, an internal locus of control is if you find yourself thinking when it comes to weight loss, “I don’t have enough willpower to lose 5 pounds.” You’re blaming yourself for not losing weight, implying an internal locus of control. However, if you think, “I can’t lose weight because my spouse loves to eat out,” this is an external locus of control, or the tendency to blame outside forces for outcomes An external locus of control may make you feel powerless to do anything to fix your problem - Negative social comparison Social comparison can sometimes serve a positive function and enhance a person's sense of self. But comparing yourself to others can also damage self-esteem. People with low self-esteem may be more likely to engage in what is known as upward social comparison, or comparing themselves to people who they think are better than themselves.

I saw this post in @Life Coach Rob 's excellent group, and wanted to share it (with the author's permission) with you, as it's an evocative, visceral example of what awakening your self worth looks like. It touches on so many realisations (some hard-hitting), light bulb 'oh f*ck/shit' moments, I hope you enjoy it, would love to know what you think in the comments below: A time comes in your life when you finally get it...when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out - ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying or struggling to hold on. And, like a child quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you shudder once or twice, you blink back your tears and begin to look at the world through new eyes. "This is your Awakening" You realize it's time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change ... or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon. You come to terms with the fact that neither of you is Prince Charming or Cinderella and that in the real world there isn't always fairy tale endings (or beginnings for that matter). You learn that any guarantee of "happily ever after" must begin with you...and in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance. You learn that people don't always say what they mean or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you and that it's not always about you. So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself...and in the process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance. You realize that much of the way you view yourself, and the world around you, is as a result of all the messages and opinions that have been ingrained into your psyche. And you begin to sift through all the junk you've been fed about how you should behave, how you should look, how much you should weigh, what you should wear, what you should do for a living, how much money you should