Hello guys, I've been going out specifically to cold approach (CA) for the past five days without any previous experience, and I've been very introverted most of my life. Long story short, I did one approach, and I didn't handle the conversation well, but the girl was happy that I talked to her, so at least one good thing came out of this. I learned a lot of things about myself in the process. I aim to include a lot of details so this is probably going to be a longer post. Bear with me guys. Also, this post serves for me as a self-analyzing document and for tracking my progress. The information here is completely unfiltered and honest. My struggles ======== 1. Neverending excuses This is so far the most common issue I have. No matter the girl, no matter the situation, my brain always comes up with a perfect excuse why not to approach the girl. The most common excuses: - There are too many people around her - not appropriate (fear of embarrassment) - She's with a friend - Don't want to approach groups without experience (fear of embarrassment) - She's eating - approaching or longer conversation can be intrusive (might be a valid excuse) - The age doesn't add up - not appropriate (might be a valid excuse) - She is in a hurry - not appropriate (fear of rejection or being intrusive) - She's out of my league (fear of rejection) (does not happen often) - She shows no IOIs (indicator of interest) - (doesn't even make sense for CA) - Generally not appropriate to approach due to something... 2. Waiting for IOI (indication of interest) confirmation Some girls show IOIs. But I consider that to be confirmed after showing at least 2-3 IOIs. In the past 5 days, I realized that I wait for the confirmation often. However, the problem is that in my experience, most of the girls are shy, and will only provide me with the confirming IOI once they are sure that they see you for the last time, and it is too late to act. Note: I try to learn and train CA. I shouldn't even care about IOIs at this point...

Let’s talk about something a lot of people overlook: If you can pull girls, you can sell. I’ve noticed this firsthand—most of my friends who are good with women are also out there crushing it in sales. It’s not a coincidence. The same social dynamics are at play in both situations—master one, and you’ve already got the blueprint for the other. Whether you’re closing a deal or sparking attraction, it’s all about confidence, reading the room, handling objections, and knowing how to communicate value. 1️⃣ It’s All About Value Exchange • When you’re talking to a girl, you’re not just chatting—you’re communicating social value. Whether it’s humor, confidence, status, or body language, you’re showing why you’re worth her time. • In sales, you’re doing the same thing—highlighting how your product or service solves a problem or adds value to someone’s life. 2️⃣ Reading Social Cues is Key • Both in dating and sales, it’s about reading subtle cues: Is she interested? Is she testing you? Do you need to slow down or take the conversation in a new direction? • With a customer, the same applies: What are they looking for? What objections do they have? What’s really holding them back? The better you get at reading people, the more success you’ll have. 3️⃣ Rejection is Just Part of the Process • Guys who succeed with women don’t fear rejection or overcame that fear. They understand it’s part of the game, and they’re always refining their approach. • In sales, every “no” brings you closer to a “yes.” The mindset is the same: Detach emotionally from the outcome and focus on the process. 4️⃣ Confidence and Control Win Every Time • Whether you’re talking to a girl or closing a sale, confidence is everything. People can sense if you believe in yourself and your offer. And the more you practice, the easier it gets to hold that confident frame, come off conversationally, laid back, and flip the dynamic: No one wants to be sold to, they like to buy. The Takeaway? If you’re already skilled in either pulling or selling, you’ve got transferable skills waiting to be unlocked. The same principles of value, social awareness, resilience, and confidence apply to both. Hone those abilities, and you’ll win in social situations, business, and life.

Yesterday I scheduled my day for today! As most first tries, it didn’t go as planned at all… more or less! The only thing that went “well” has been the job. I decided yesterday that o would help my father with his work as an employee. It has been interesting but at the same time boring! I don’t think I learned anything because I had just to pail up some old papers, at least I’ve been useful by giving man’s crafts/labour! I did finish and going to by groceries! IM not T… but I feel like that I have no fats in my body! Later I’ll do Some training! And tomorrow I’ll go to talk with the priest for social interactions! I would like to show you my schedule but or I can’t put pictures/my phone is full! How do you handle your phone memory? Day been decent … at least now I know what’s to work for a 9 to 5!

For training do you listen to music? I know it might sound odd but… I heard a video about the effects that music bring to the brain and ain’t that good apparently. Depends of course form the music🎶 ! Is there any explanation about what’s good or bad? Or it’s just personal taste? It’s weird because in my case music gaves me only the motivation to actually star, rather than working out with it! What are your thoughts about it!? Should someone just do what it feels like doing or… learn to listen better music? Does the voice really influence ur way of thinking ?🤔

Good morning, legends. Let’s talk about The Memorization Trap. Memorizing things like names is valuable—people’s names are music to their ears, and getting that right builds instant rapport. But there’s a difference between remembering details and developing a mind that can think creatively. When it comes to names, a few strategies go a long way: 1) If the name reminds you of someone else, make that connection in your head. 2) Picture the person in a ridiculous or memorable scenario to “stamp” the name in your memory. 3) Repeat their name a few times during the conversation. 4) If it’s a tough name or totally new to you, write it down after they leave—just a quick note in your phone. Now, let me be clear—memorizing is a good skill. As a personal challenge, I memorized all 48 Laws of Power last summer and still have them locked in. But the ability to think creatively will always outshine raw memory. Our school systems often drill us to memorize and regurgitate information, but they rarely teach us how to solve problems by thinking outside the box. I remember being told I was wrong in school more than once—even when I had the right answer. Why? Because I didn’t follow the teacher’s method. This kind of thinking trains us to believe there’s only one correct way to approach problems, which is a dangerous habit. In life and business, success depends on solving complex challenges in ways that others haven’t thought of. The ones stuck in the rat race often are rule followers who can’t think for themselves, while the leaders and creators forge their own path. Today’s mission: Break free from those patterns that tell you there’s only one way to think. Start questioning your own beliefs and develop a mindset of curiosity. Challenge yourself to solve problems in new ways. The truth is, creative thinkers create history—they don’t just record someone else’s version of it. Make today one for the books—think big, think bold, and make every conversation count ❤️‍🔥