10d ago in General discussion
(Re) Intro Post
Good afternoon gentlemen. Im long overdue for a introductory post as I rejoined the group a few months back after consulting with and setting up a call with Paul. I know some of you but most names I dont recognize so I'll get into a little backstory but most will be about looking forward along with some accountability posts to follow. I dont want to make this so long that guys dont read so if anybody wants me to elaborate more on any section then I will do a breakout post beyond what I write. In making the most out of this group, I encourage EVERYONE to put it ALL out there when discussing these things. You can't make the most out groups like this if the rest of us dont have the full picture when helping decipher the situation. I get that some may have details they dont want to share, but this group should be judgement free and provide tough love at the same time. Thats what we are all here to do - grow together and crush goals along the way. Looking forward to interacting with everyone.
I turned 44 in Sept and got divorced a little over 5 years ago (she initiated but I filed). It was a typical marriage in many aspects. We met in our late 20's at work, seemed to have similar goals and enjoyed the same things (probably a little too much). We were married for almost 9 years and have an awesome daughter who I see every week but is still with her mom most of the time. She will be 12 on Nov 20th. Again, I wont get into details to keep the intro post short, but my ex came from a conservative family in south Mississippi and seemed to lean that way herself. We both worked for Lockheed Martin at the time, and she still does. Throughout the marriage we relocated a few times so she could get a promotion into a few different senior manager spots. I believe this is where things changed. she began to hang out with another woman from work pretty frequently until it turned into an affair of some sort (yes, that's not a typo). Pretty sure that she has been brainwashed by the leftist feminist propaganda on all fronts and she turned into a closet feminist of sorts. They now live together and my daughter spends most of her time there.
I am spending a lot of time trying to figure out how to get my daughter back to 50/50 custody but it has been a difficult process due to logistics, among other things. To me, there are definitely some things in my divorce decree that I should not have agreed to and plan to talk to an attorney to see what can be changed without my ex's permission and what cant. I can make a separate long-form post about our marriage, the pitfalls, observations, etc if guys are interested. If not, then no problem.
I am an OG member of Paul's Apex group from 3 years ago, and became friends with a few of the guys. I was also in Rich Cooper's 1% for a couple years but seemed to outgrow it. It was the same issue Paul's original group had. Many "members" but only about 10 guys actively posting. I encourage all you guys to post and provide feedback. The more interactive the group, the more useful it gets. I still talk with a few members from each group pretty frequently and it was at the Nashville meetup for the 1% that I met in person and we connected from there and have done an in person meetup and talk on a weekly basis ever since. That's why I encourage guys to get to meetups when possible and really make it a priority. These same connections cannot be made online.
Currently live in Grapevine, TX (DFW) and would love to know if there's any other Texas members in here. Part of this was prompted by post about in person meet ups. I'm not originally from Texas and dont have many connections here so my network is severely lacking. Also looking forward to going to some meetups, as I joined Apex Elite about a month ago and think these meetups are great. I did a couple with the 1% and have since done a few with official meets through Apex and then a couple private meets with some members who I talk to frequently.
Goals - I have been working closely with Paul on the visualization, meditation, and journaling parts of the Apex Mindset course. If you guys dont have access, I would highly recommend it and if you already do, USE IT!
I am currently an RN, working a couple different gigs but brainstorming ways to get out of healthcare. I got into nursing roughly 5 years ago (long backstory) and it was mostly to make use of the flexible schedule it allowed since my ex would travel for work and our daughter was only about 6 at the time. One of the things I'm working with Paul on is my peak state/magic wand life. I never would have picked nursing knowing what I know now and get no fulfilment out of the job so I'm going down the rabbit hole and searching for that fulfilment using Paul's exercises.
I'll wrap it up for now to keep it short. Looking forward to hearing from guys here and hope to be able to hop on some zoom calls as I have been working a night job and have a hard time hopping on.
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(Re) Intro Post
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