Thought I'd introduce myself. I turned 50 last week and since the start of the year have been struggling with that prospect. At the same time my marriage has hit a rocky patch so things have happened in spades. Been a member here since May 24 and dipped in and out. Have now actually took action and currently half way through the 5 day challenge which is truly amazing. I'm so positive about the future.

On Saturday, I take my oldest daughter to university as she embarks on the next stage of her journey. But god damn, where has time gone? My two oldest are 17 and 19. They’re building their own lives, making their own decisions now. And I’m proud of them, but... I desperately miss them. I don’t see them as much and often ask myself, What have I done wrong? I know I’ve done nothing wrong, this is just what happens at this age. They’re balancing time between their mum’s house and mine, friends, partners and work. Maybe I wouldn’t feel as bad if I lived with them every day. On the other hand, I have a 3- and 7-year-old who keeps me young and still wants daddies attention, because they still need me. It’s so rewarding, and I’m such a better man this time around as a father to young children. It’s so important if you have young kids to pay attention to them. Sounds obvious doesn't it. I always thought I had an abundance of time with them, that they would always want to be a part of my life. But there are so many distractions today pulling you away from that time. Poor routines, work pressures, phones. There has never been a better time to make sure you are leading yourself as a man and father, especially when your kids are young. Because when that time is gone, it’s non-refundable. I talk about this more openly in my podcast, which I’ve linked to below. Be their hero! JB LISTEN TO PODCAST ON SPOTIFY  LISTEN TO PODCAST ON APPLE