Want to get rid of your addictions?

Sebastian Roos

Aug 24 in Self-Improvement

Some of you might know the book "The Body Keeps The Score" by Bessel van der Kolk.

I read it this evening and it's absolutely mind-blowing so far.

THIS snippet will reframe your view on it:

"Many traumatized people seem to seek out experiences that would repel most of us,

and patients often complain about a vague sense of emptiness and

boredom when they are not angry, under duress, or involved in some dangerous activity.

My patient Julia was brutally r*ped at gunpoint in a hotel room at age sixteen. Shortly thereafter

she got involved with a violent pimp who prostituted her. He regularly beat her up. She was

repeatedly jailed for prostitution, but she always went back to her pimp.

Finally her grandparents intervened and paid for an intense rehab program. After she successfully completed inpatient treatment, she started working as a receptionist and taking courses at a local college. In her sociology class she wrote a term paper about the liberating possibilities of prostitution, for which she read the memoirs of several famous prostitutes. She gradually dropped all her other courses. A brief relationship with a classmate quickly went sour—he bored her to tears, she said, and she was repelled by his boxer shorts. She then picked up an addict on the subway who first beat her up and then started to stalk her. She finally became motivated to return to treatment when she was once again severely beaten"

This is a tough story but noticed how it CLICKED in your mind?

Maybe, and this is just my theory, we keep going back to addictions because it traumatized us the first we got in contact with it. (special reference to p*rn here)

Most guys who "can't stop" watching p*rn have one common denominator in their situation:

their first experience with p*rn was at a young age

Subsequently, they become traumatized.

And everytime they decide to watch it again, they want to practice control.

"This time I can control the situation, this time I won't do..."

"This time I won't watch this genre..."

Sounds familiar, doesn't it?

Same goes for people's lives feeling dull when they don't watch p*rn. As mentioned above, we go back to our old behaviours simply for feeling "excitement" again.

Although I don't have a solution at the ready for you, you are now more aware of why you might be "relapsing" constantly.

Here's the link to the Google Drive document of the book:

https://drive.google.com/file/d/12WDw6A0jnTiQphCHOEcrrNEW_jLWt5t0/view?usp=sharing

(The link is free, I do NOT gain any financial benefits for putting the link here.)

Let me know if this post helped you out!🤝

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